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Topic: What would you do?
GuideHenri's photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:48 PM

"I don't want to be a fall-back girl,... but at least he's being honest, ....

Unless I'm being stupid. Which is a possibility?


You are both being stupid.

1 You are his fall-back girl, but he shouldn't have let you know.

2. You are is fall-back girl, it should be blindingly obvious.

no photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:48 PM

I did ask what his girlfriend was going to think about him having a girl friend, and he said she'd better be okay with it, since she has so many guy friends and he knows almost nobody in OKC...

I don't know... I mean... did I mess something up?


OK!! Now I see..OKC..OKLAHOMA..that explains everything!!! noway :tongue: :tongue: laugh laugh flowerforyou

( I spent most of my life in the Tulsa area..I AM entitled!) laugh

Suzanne20's photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:49 PM
You should never have to be second best for anybody. Why wait for a ship that may never come in?

BlueskyJ's photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:51 PM
I agree that at least he is honest and communicating outwardly with you....that is better than almost any girl that i've known....they usually just let the answering machine take the message & never return your call

he's not a player or he would've been playing you both & it never got to that point....obviously he has feelings for this other girl and wants to check it out....

but i would be hesitant about getting back together with him in the future unless you were sure he was not committed to anyone else....that would be easy to tell after a few emails, conversations, and dates....good luck!!!

And happy valentine's day!!!

BizarreKelley's photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:52 PM
Yeah we're all backwards out here...

I've been a rebound, second-best, and a booty call. But not a girlfriend since I was 15. WTF, people?!

GuideHenri's photo
Thu 02/14/08 02:58 PM

Yeah we're all backwards out here...

I've been a rebound, second-best, and a booty call. But not a girlfriend since I was 15. WTF, people?!

Then they are all mad.

You look great and sound sane enough. You deserve and will have someone just for you if I have to fly over there myself.
:heart: flowerforyou :heart: flowerforyou :heart:

BizarreKelley's photo
Thu 02/14/08 03:01 PM
Aww, thanks :smile:

8607's photo
Thu 02/14/08 03:03 PM
It sounds like he's got you on the back burner, if he was that interested he wouldn't be talking to you and another at the same time and then decide he'll try the other girl first. I would say bye bye.

bad_girl's photo
Thu 02/14/08 03:04 PM

eat 14 bananas and call me in the morning!!!bigsmile

BizarreKelley's photo
Thu 02/14/08 03:05 PM
I don't get it..

AllenAqua's photo
Thu 02/14/08 03:25 PM

Situation: You and a guy (or girl, if you are a guy reading this) have talked online for a little while (at least a month), and have been talking on the phone for about 2 weeks. You get along pretty well. You are aware that about a month before you started talking, he'd broken up with a girl he'd seen for a short time. Then, today, you are talking to him and he says that he's decided to get back together with her, and is even planning on moving in with her. He says that he wants to continue to be your friend, and now that he's moving, he'll be close enough that we can actually meet and be friends (he currently lives about an hour and a half away, and will be moving about 20 minutes away). He also says that if things don't work out with the girl this time, you will be the first to find out, because he is in fact interested.

What do I make of this? Part of me says, "I don't want to be a fall-back girl, eff off"... but at least he's being honest, right? And we have never said or done anything that wasn't platonic. I am disappointed, obviously, but I'm also okay with just being friends with him. And if something is meant to happen, it will happen later.

Unless I'm being stupid. Which is a possibility?



Unless I get the chance to actually spend up close and personal time getting to know someone, I have to consider them , at best, a friend... I wish my friends well, with or without me. If I were in your situation, I'd take it as a lesson learned and maybe not put so much time and energy into it next time, but at the same time stay open... " life is what happens when your busy making other plans", Hey ! good luck flowerforyou

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