Topic: I would like some advice....
lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:37 AM
Edited by lissa_327 on Wed 02/13/08 05:37 AM
Okay, here is my situation. I have been talking and dating a guy from another site. He is about 60 miles away so we really only talk via the internet. I really like him, but I need more. We have dicussed this and because of his job (he's a cop) he has very little "free" time. He also has 2 boys. I am okay with his kids coming first, in fact I demand it. My problem is this.... he is not the only cop on the force and he should want to make time for "us."

That being said, I have been chatting with a guy from a different site, he knows I am involved with the cop and want to see where it goes.

I don't know which way to go. I really like the cop, but we dont have enough time for each other, the other guy is closer BUT I dont know much about him yet.

What do I do???? Please help! Any advice will be taken and appreciated! Thanks all!

Moondark's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:40 AM
Sounds like the way things are with the cop, you are filling the emotional needs he has and he doesn't really feel any push to more.

Just keep talking with the guy who is closer. Learn more about him. See what happens. You can't put your life on hold.

lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:41 AM
Moondark, all I can say is WOW, I never thought of it that way! Thanks!

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:43 AM

Sounds like the way things are with the cop, you are filling the emotional needs he has and he doesn't really feel any push to more.

Just keep talking with the guy who is closer. Learn more about him. See what happens. You can't put your life on hold.


yep this is good advice. may have to take it myself .. same scenario laugh laugh laugh

lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:43 AM
Fade2black, I wish us both the best of luck!

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Wed 02/13/08 05:44 AM
Lissa, ditto, sweetie flowerforyou flowerforyou Time will tell you what you need to do :heart:

hardnready's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:45 AM
Have to agree with the ladies.....follow your heart and dont settle .

lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:45 AM
Suz, Hi! How are you! Thanks hun, I will just see how things play out, but I will NOT put my life on hold!flowerforyou

Lily0923's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:45 AM

Sounds like the way things are with the cop, you are filling the emotional needs he has and he doesn't really feel any push to more.

Just keep talking with the guy who is closer. Learn more about him. See what happens. You can't put your life on hold.


yep, I hate to say it...but I too Fade may have to take this advise also.

lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:46 AM
hardnready - I settled once before and it was awful in the end. I will never settle again. That is the best advice anyone can give - Never Settle! Thanks.

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:47 AM
Sounds like a lot of us have the same scenario ... *sigh*

and ya, life is WAYYY too short to be puttin' love on hold. I learned that last BF. yep yep yepglasses

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Wed 02/13/08 05:47 AM

Suz, Hi! How are you! Thanks hun, I will just see how things play out, but I will NOT put my life on hold!flowerforyou


Lissa, I seriously owe you an e-mail and I'm so sorry. I'll do it today, promise :heart:

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:47 AM

Fade2black, I wish us both the best of luck!



I'll drink to that drinker

hardnready's photo
Wed 02/13/08 05:48 AM
Cheers ladiesdrinker ....you all deserve a special valintines this year....so flowers to allflowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Wed 02/13/08 05:48 AM
There's nothing wrong with getting to know both of them, that's the whole purpose of dating. Until two of you discuss having an exclusive relationship, then I say you are free to do what you want.

And on another note, don't "wait" around for the cop to find time for you, if he thinks YOU'LL be there when HE'S ready, then days, weeks, and months will fly by. I'm speaking from experience here, I did that for almost a year and finally came to my senses several months ago. Make him come after you, don't sit and wait for him.

lissa_327's photo
Wed 02/13/08 06:07 AM
Suz, whenever you have the time, I will gladly read a email from you. To everyone esle, you guy are great, as always!

hardnready's photo
Wed 02/13/08 06:08 AM
All the bet to you lisa...hope it turns out for the best...whichever route you chooseflowerforyou

itsmetina's photo
Wed 02/13/08 06:15 AM
keep trying darling