Why do some people got to blow stuff out of proportion? I am done with my baby's dad ( I don't want him back) but yet his new girlfriend is making it hard for us to try and be friends at least for the sake of our son. Before they got together we agreed on being friends but now that is a different story.. She is under the impression I am trying to ruin their relationship to get him back and I have told both of them I am done with him and moving on with my life.. I am trying to be the bigger person and be civil and if I try to contact him for something other than something that is strictly our son than she blows it out of proportion...

sounds like maybe her own insecurities

she wont last

"My babies dad and I are trying to work things out and are back together"? Vas is das?

Look at all the lips

truthfully i dont think thats fair because its still your son and shes just gonna have to get it through her head thats something you guys share together and it doesnt hurt anything for you guys to have contact especially for the sake of your child

Pull her aside and tell her, you and the ex have an agreement.
That yal have to communicate because of your son.
If she don't understand that have the ex explain it to her.

hey at least these are mine

All parent I think should be civil to each other, but my question is what do you have to contact him for, if it has nothing to do w/ur son? Talk about the weather, or just annoy her?

I talk to my daughter's father all the time... if she doesn't like it, tough. She got into a relationship with someone that had a kid with someone else already. I don't bug them by any means... but he is my friend ( for the most part ) and we keep in frequent contact. He's in been a part of my life for 12 years, she just needs to deal with it. I don't purposly do anything to bother her or anything like that tho.

ther should be a rule book for step parents..it's truely non of her business..

I was a step parent...actually my sons dad has 3 ex's..

We all got along..1 cause we actually liked each other 2 for the children...

He has a g/f now for 10 yrs.She had a bit of a hard time...but she controled herself..

When she did have oppinions i usually heard it from the kids or another 3rd party....

She eventually over time has learned..i don't want him..but we have kids together..

As another poster said.."it won't last" ur ex will eventually get sick of the crap...

If not..do what u have to do and continue to be the better and biggger person..

If it affects ur son in any way...she better watch out..moms don't take sht when it comes to their children..

Best of luck



Zanne

Anywho, you may wanna take "My babies dad and I are trying to work things out and we are back together" out of your profile its confusing and not helping your case. Just a thought.

How many times a day do you call??? Ive been the gf in this situation and the old one made it impossible for us to have a real relationship......

My ex and I have talked.Usually first having to do with the children..then we talk about the weather or anything else we want...

its a working friendship..couldn't be married..that was a disaster..

But sometimes there r things to talk about that can be part of co parenting..regardless of what the other person thinks..

Exactly

Maybe you should try to not contact him for anything unrelated to your son and give it some time. Keep in mind, all she knows is what he tells her.

Once you give it some time and establish rapport, then you can try and be more conversational with them both. Of course, everything related to your son she needs to deal with, but she is not your problem, she's his. And vice versa. Good luck. I understand your dilemma.

Lay the cards on the table

nicely put lilith