How would you feel if your other half calls you from a strip club just to tell you he loves you and misses you...Granted I was happy, but from a nudie bar..he loves the bars, I'm a homebody...
See I met a 22 year old soldier, I'm 32 with the same career, except he's infantry, I'm Judge Advocate. It was great to find someone that shares the same dreams as me, goals and supported me when I was sad/pissed cause I did not get to go to Iraq with my soldiers...
He has asked me to marry him twice, I said yes...So my question is how do you make it work with somebody who is younger? Or am I at a lost cause here? I'm nervous cause of the age thing or am I just over reacting? I mean this is the man I do love and would love to spend the rest of my life with. I would like to know eveyone's 2 cents here on this...I have always dated older never younger..I have made some good friends here and trust your advice...

marry him if you really think it can work if there is any doubt dont do it. by the way i would so marry an older woman it is just age anyways

Marrrying a younger guy is 1 question....

But..is him calling u from a strip club something that is bothering u..since u mentioned it..

It's hard being away from each other and then to have the obsticles that go with it..

run don't walk away,,,,any time ur out of ur age brackett,,,,,,,it might be nice fo a while,,,,,,,,but it don't useally work for longterm

okay first of all he is 22 and you have to let him be 22.. and if that means running the bars and stuff then so be it .. you are 32 and thinking about marrying someone who hasn't had a chance to find out who he is yet and now you want to change him ?? The strip club thing is just dumb he called and told you he loved you and you are worried about where he called from ... MMMMM sounds like you are using these things has topics when there is an underlying issue...

i would say just trust your gut instinct on this one and dating someone 10years younger i unnoo..a 22 year old barely knows who he is or what he wants unless hes one of the exceptions to the rule

No the strip club thing did not bother me, I just found it strange thats all but flattered..
We are doing that distance thing I'm here at Campbell he is at Hood...
I would never try to change him, I love him to much for who he is hardass and all. Iraq made him grow up very quick...
And me walking way
That will be very hard since all my heart and emotions are in this, see he is going to iraq in 10 months and I don't think I could be without him, I love him that much and if something happens to him, I know that the little time we had was good and we both found happiness in each other...
I just want to know is does everyone think this can work or am I in over my head??

Don't sound right to me. You deal with this in your work life. Why would you want to deal with it in your personal life?

I can understand a 22 year old being in a nudie bar. I don't think I would like it, but that is just me. I believe you should give the relationship more time. I wouldn't rush in to things. I'm sure Iraq has a way of making one grow up a lot faster. I think you should stay together and see if absence does make the heart grow stronger. If you both wait for each other while he is in Iraq, than I would say it is the real deal and marry him when he gets back. JMO

Overreacting. I always date younger. No biggie. It's who you love. there will always challenges in relationships. Just pick your poison

I would definitely cut the nudie bar thing. Not acceptable in any relationship I'm in. I'm the only nude I want him watchin' & I'm much better than anything he sees in a bar. That's for sure

Love ALWAYS finds a way. end of story.

Why would you care if he goes to a nudie bar? At 22 I would be more surprised if he didn't. It's a "secure with yourself and your relationship thing". I say it doesn't matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he eats at home.

I so agree with u on this one....

ahh yes true love -I love him so I want to change him ....

so very true.....

I have 2 sons...

My marine went to a dudie bar with his older brother before leaving..to see what it's all about..

Just as did..but I was in my 30's...

My son got a taste and his fill..

At almost 20...he preferrs to be with the real thing..his fiance...and they of course r apart at this time...

I don't have a problem with my guy..if I had one..lol..going from time to time...

But I always told the one I was in a 6 yr relationship..when u come home..all drunked up with a vision of some other P*ssy in ur mind..

Don't expect anything from me...

I am not going to fullfill ur fantisy..

sleep..clear ur head..and then we will resume REAL life...

after that he didn't go very often...

It's not about change. It's called give and take in a relationship. everyone has their 'deal breakers' .. that's one of mine.

He can have all the space he wants in a relationship with me, cuz I like space too. But not when it includes other women's naked bodies. Period.

He doesn't have to change just has to respect ME.

Thank-you, Fade2Black

You mean to tell me that it is wrong to go to a strip club, get drunk as hell, and then call the 5 women you are seeing and telling them you love them all?

And Fade......I Love You Sweetie. Your comments rock!