I recently began a relationship with someone I met on here. Being as this is my first real relationship (prior to this one, I was in a long distance relationship and never saw him), I was pondering what I should and should not tolerate, and what I deserve in a good relationship.

oh don't get me started on your worth... hon, you, and most people, are worth so much more than they think they are

You kinda have to figure that one out yourself.

you deserve to be treated with respect and as a equal. you know how you want to be treated in a relationship. You should except nothing less.

Good Lord, woman! What a loaded question. Try reading some books...

Anything abusive shouldn't be tolerated.
Anything that allows you to feel like you're lowering your standards or morals shouldn't be tolerated.

u make your own rules darling

the rules are woman are always right.!!!!! lol

would you like to be my gurlfriend ?

Worries me that you would be asking that question haing just started this relationship... I would think that is not a good sign..

Smart guy! hahaha
But unfortunately not always true.

ok everyone this is my best friend Manda, she is one of those innocent and very inexperienced types. I love her to death but her bf has mentioned to me after seriously flirting with me attempting to hold my hand on several occasions and mentioning he happened to like me, touching my breast, and that of my friend Ashley's as well, I have mentioned to him that having a flirtatious personality as he put it, would not be the best asset in this relationship or any for that matter, and just because amanda is not around does not mean you can flirt with every thing has breast, which he happens to do.

at the very least he should be as considerate towards you as you would be towards him. but imho - that is the minimum. i'd also think that he should not do anything which would be in the least way difficult for you to tolerate. he should be respectful and attentive - a gentleman - and someone who you would be eager to introduce to your friends and family.

Hun, don't you "tolerate" anything. Don't let him pull any nasty little tricks on you. You don't want to let him think you can be manipulated. Make sure he knows you're strong, not just another submissive girl. You're worth more than you think you are. You are beautiful, you've got an amazing personality, and most of all, you are WOMAN. You can go out there and get anyone you want. If he wants to try and take advantage of you, he doesn't deserve you.

which I happen to know he is none of those things, sorry mandy but he's not. Girl I love you but you are lowering yourself for mac, don't do it *shakes her relentlessly*

Don't tolerate anything that doesn't make you feel good about you and who you are. If It feels wrong...it is wrong

she nedd someone respect to she and realy love

I agree with curios!!!!!

I agree but she thinks he loves her, which he's told her I'm sure on many occasions, mandy you really do need someone who respects you and doesn't flirt with everyone he sees.

ok, here's a few things I've learned over the many years.
If you have an internet date set up and he blows you off even once to chill with his bros. Lose him!
If he says he wants to be with you and still flirts frequently.
Lose him! You never know what he's doing behind your back if he's acting like that in front of you.
If the stuff he's doing doesn't feel good to you. Lose him!

I know you're very young so it's not as easy to see but,don't EVER surrender who you are and what YOU want for some guy(or girl for you young fellers out there lol).

If it feels good, then go with the flow.
If it bothers you or hurts too often, then maybe yer just not getting the respect EVERYONE should get!