Well, then... I posted a while ago about the above subject.

Last night I got drunk and came clean to her

She told me she loved her current boyfried, whooops! Apparently she won't let things get funny between us, don't see how.

SHe is in a long distance relationship, and I feel I am filling the void in between trips to see her boyfriend, and emotional affair.


We are going for a meal on valentines day...


(Sound confusing? - I know I'm confused!)

Halp!

Ta,

~C

I bet she really likes you and she is just afraid to believe it

Long distance relationship. She probably loves the ideal of the boyfriend as she has created him in her mind. And the times they get to spend together are also idealized, because in many ways, it is like 'honeymoon' time, for a better term.

But you are the emotional support for her when not around him. In a way, it is like two relationships to fill the needs one would normally fill if it was local.

From experience, falling for ones best friend ends badly. They say when it works, it is the most wonderful thing. But when it doesn't it is worse than if the other person hadn't been that close in that way.

be careful. try not to get hurt. that long distance relationship is a tough obstacle to overcome.

keep it as friends or you mite lose her friendship

I think to be fair to my little brain, that wouldn't be bad thing. We spend a lot of time together, and I can't have this playing on my mind the whole time.



Too late to not get hurt, but I'm resilient, and that doesn't matter.



Nail, meet head! I think your spot on with what your saying.



Thats a lovely thing to say thank you, but I find optimism in this instance is probably a bad thing.

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Everyone local to us thinks we are a couple when we're out and about. She told me the other day, that when people say that, she wishes we were.

Hence my confusion.

Sorry for the rant, between that splitting up with my girlfriend of 5 years, and a messy long distance thing myself - I needed to vent.

All gets a bit too much, but give it a couple of weeks, I'm sure normal service will resume.

Ta,

~C

i say go for it holmes if u feel so strongly about her dont let it slip away

I did, didn't work - despite all the above all I got was that she loves her boyfriend, and she won't let things get funny between us.

Ta,

~c

you still have feelings though right?, and everyone knows LDR's never really work and u r there in the now so just keep slight pressure on it nothing much that she will get mad just slowly ease on in, it works

Tell you what.... If it does I will Paypal you enough for exactly one beer.

alright i'll holt you to it, but definatly try it if u have strong feelings for her, it never hurts to try

I'd hang in their & see what happens.
Long distance is against the odds, hard to make work.
She might be testing you, to see if you will go the distance.

I married my best friend & it took us 4 yrs to make the move.

Agreed Moon. It CAN turn into something you wish had never happened........ *sigh*

I think women oftne times need the man to make that jump.. if this is someone you see yourself with and can't shake it maybe she doesn't think you are being completely honest with her. Maybe she needs you to convince her that you really do love her.

but then again she might not feel the same way and easing into the possition might be your best bet in order to keep the friendship if it doesn;t work out.

women do like persistence though

good luck my man

Cheers, but I can't Paypal you any money for beer I'd be broke by the end of the thread.

Ta,

~C

Oh vey!

Been there done that..

Now they want/need to return to the area.
How enriching.
THEY want me BACK.
I'VE MOVED ON.