Too much baggage.

What do you consider baggage? I am not trying to be argumentative but I don't like it when people say they wont date someone because they are a parent; this goes for both men and women.
If it is because in your experience you have found single fathers to have too many issues with their exes (whether it is ex-gf or-ex wife doesn't matter) ok, I can understand that to a point. I would not want to be in a relationship where my gf was like that either.

I have found though, and I am not trying to say this is you, that most people when they say too much baggage automatically assume that dating them would mean dating the ex as well. And this is not normally the case. Yes when children are involved you might have to meet the mother/father eventually due to visitation, that's to be expected. But most of the time yuo would not even have to see or talk to the ex.

I have even run across (far fewer cases thankfully) where a person thought the children themselves were extra baggage. That one really aggravated me, cause how can a person think of a child as baggage?

There's millions of other reasons to say theres too much baggage, but I am curious as to yours.

Issues ??

Dont sweat man, everyone has their own standards when it comes to dating. She is perfectly entitled to her own criteria.

Just like me, I wont date a woman that doesnt have kids. A lot of women who dont have children cant understand the meaning and requirments of being a parent unless they have a child.

It just makes things easier...

Thank you Jim, that was one of my other points, I don't have kids, and a man that does has a bond with them, that I do not understand yet. someone that I will marry and eventually have children with, I want to grow with, not be lead by.

Your quite welcome

Although I dont think "lead" by is a good term. I am sure no one, well at least I hope..would expect you to follow. It needs to be a blend with all accepting to it. Importantly the childs interest should always hold priority since they are being raised. I would not look at it as being lead, if you were to ever meet a man you possibly had interest with and he happended to have a child it shold be a team and you shouldnt be "placed".

You also mentioned that you wouldnt Mother someone elses child, if any man actually expected you to do so? He's a loser, I dont want nor expect any woman to be anywhere near a Mother role to my daughter, she already has a Mom...

Good luck to you, you seem like a very intelligent woman with goals, dont let your standards down...That's very credible

Jim Here's to you and all the other stand up dad's in JSH! Wish my ex was a part of my kids life!

Thank you!!!