I am 44 years old and have only gone on dates every 5 years or so and only when I know the gal a little already. I always seem to be more devastated after the relationship compared to any pleasure I had, even after short relationships. Others can breeze through partners ,I just can not do that even if I try. Is it really worth it to try again? Comments or advice?

Well.... my advice is , YES!, it IS worth it

Now, I just read your profile... and the only thing that I can think of is that you may be looking for someone who is as carefree or at least as free as you. By now, most women our age (40's) have children and obligations involving them.. which would make their time a little less *free*.

Don't give up! I am certain there is a wonderful match for you.. and I pray she walks into your life very soon

I agree with Light. It's ALWAYS worth it. We all fall off the horse and have to get back on.

If you aren't willing to get hurt you will never find love.

Stop trying that or stop trying so hard and just be yourself,is what everyone tells me and sooner or later the rite one will come along,Hay and if it dont happen in a few years you can always go to a Cat house in nevada,(that advice is what a freind of mine told me ) just take life as it comes at you,one day at a time

ahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa cat house!!!

I read your profile and it says you are looking for a woman to fill in time when you aren't surfing.

women don't want to be "time-fillers" while you are waiting for something better to come along

I always wanted to go out with a boat....

NNNNNNNNNNNNNickiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii smile good looking,I wish I was a cat devil: : ...You deffinatly are not a time filler and you can see the truth and say it

Unfortunatly its only a decision you have to make yourself... Is the heartache worth the love. I debate with this one myself & I'm 12 years younger than you.

Personally I'm actually starting to think I'll end up as a hermit...lol

Hummm it's only worth it if you really want it so all depends on what you want.

At times one must sit back and think what they really want within life and not wait till it is gone to miss it instead grab what you want when it is in front of your face.

Those that always waits for something better to come along miss out on the best they could have had.!!

<----getting old and wasting away......

I also wonder if the pain is worth trying. I cannot change boyfriends like underwear, it takes me about 2 years to feel ready to try again. I know that's extreme, but it's true. I always want the next one to be the last one. My last boyfriend was living with someone else within 10 days of us splitting up. I don't want him back, but I am shocked, hurt, humiliated. I am also very worried about his 2 young sons. He has moved them around from woman to woman & they are obviously damaged. The 6 yr old called me "mamma" the day he met me.