Hey Folks,
First off Good Day to ya'll. Second please give me some advise on how to better counsel a fellow christian man on his marrage. His wife came to the Lord and quickly deserted Him. Some of this is due to wrongful advise from some Non-Believers. I've keep him in Prayer and in the Word. I just need some advise to as how to save this gracious man from doom. Please if your going to respond with filth or bad advise please don't....
Thanks in advance

personally, i think it would help if the people you are asking for help has some info to go on. right now, there's pretty much nothing.

My first question to you is are you a qualified marriage counselor? If not, what qualifications do you have that make you a good choice to try and counsel this couple?

I am not saying you don't know what you are doing, but there are so many people out there that act like social workers that don't have a clue as to what they are doing. Make sure you are skill in this trade before giving it a try. I mean, unless you have gone to Medical School you aren't really a doctor are you?

My two cents, good luck to your friends

Typical, blame it on the non believer's when something don't go right, and also why are u hanging upside down?

Right I'm not qualified in a society way, but as a christian the Word gives me guidance. I guess this is the wrong place to ask if I'm going to come against this type of responces.

Yes the non-believer is reverting tofornicating with other men other then her husband and reverted to smoking and swearing at her kids. Yes it's the non-believer in this case that is tearing 3 kids apart and a hubby too. And I'm not upside down, I'm standing in a sculpture. but that doesn't matter in this case. The Lord is against divorce, and if you read the scriptures you know this. Plus, it does say that if the nonbeliever wants out then let her. Okay, Fine. But her advise is coming from folks that claim to be wiches and others that are non-christian divorcees.

You will find animosity toward religious ideas here, even with a disclaimer. If you do your best with your friend and you feel ill equipped, all you can do at that point is help him find a good pastor to talk with. It takes 2 to make counseling work. Without specifics that's all I can really say.

This issue dosnen't sound like a faith issue, it sounds like a chemical issue to me. Eather it is an outside base chemical, Meth, speed, ect, or a chemical imbalance in her brain, or other medical reasioning.

but thats just a guess we really don't have enough information to make any kind of asesment of this issue. we eather need more information,(Background, how long this has beengoing on, Ect) Of your SOL.

Sounds like she is disatisfied and confused and she's tired of hiding her frustration.

I certainly hope my doctor didn't just pull out the Grey's Anatomy and hang up her sign for business!

And I've seen examples of people who follow the Christian faith who have done all of those things you've mentioned. People are fallible, it's just the way we are. You're upset that she's hurt your friend, so you will never be able to really help them. They need an objective third party for help. Try a licensed marriage and family counselor.

Must be the heathen at fault. Lord knows the Christian would be above reproach.

Good Advice Kelley.
BTW, how are you feeling? Over that flu yet?

Thanks! Yes, I am feeling much better today. I even went to work!

I agree with drifter those things could easily be chemically induced problems. I would really try to get her help there first.

"chemically induced" how? Do you think she's on drugs or something? Maybe she's just regretful that she changed who she is for this guy and is unhappy and stressed out.

Drifter addressed that too very well look at his post

It sounded far-fetched to me when he said it, too...

I sounded far fetched? How so?

To assume this woman is on meth because she's sleeping around, smoking, and yelling at her kids? First of all, most mothers yell at their kids (and swear too, you can't deny it), and lots of women smoke, and a fair amount of women (sadly) cheat on their husbands, with NO drugs involved. And the OP said that she'd changed her religion, perhaps to be with this guy? Not totally sure, but it seems reasonable to assume.. So what if she's not happy with this life she's stuck in now? It sounds to me like she's just unhappy. She could be doing alot worse if she was on drugs.

The way this guy made it sound (at least to me) that it wasa a sudden change. Unhappyness is a subtle change over a period of time. There would have been other signs. sudden changes are made by an outside infulance. It dosen't have to be drugs, and I didn't say just drugs, there could have been any number of thing that triggered it. I can't deny that. but at the same time you can't sit here and say that you know the it's because she changed herself for this man eather. Neather one of us has enough information go go off of. I simply based my thoughts off the fact that it sounded to me like a sudden change, which is what lead me to my conclusion.