Try finding a quiet moment and ask your kid what is up and ONLY LISTEN And LEARN.

Add more physical activity earlier in the day.

Have a no tv quiet time and a set bedtime. Add more quality sleep time.

Feed your kid a real breakfast; no sugar, no caffine, and no milk if they are allergic.

Prepare the night be for so school starts on a calm pace.

Remove common allergins from the home. This includes pets and plants. STOP SMOKING.

Teach your kid the basic preschool skills in academics, social skills, manners, and studying.

Team up with the Parent who does not live in and develope a consistent plan.

Don't make your kid your whole life, your best friend, or your confidant; they don't need that kind of stress.

Put as much energy in learning how your kid developes as you do learning your job, catching a new partner, or fighting with your Ex.

Learn and demonstrate good time management and copeing skills.

PS If your kid doesn't tell you they hate you you occassionally you are not being a good parent. It goes with the territory. Get used to it. Just smile back at him and say but you will "Thank me later" because they will; around thirty ...lol

Ok, I put my foot down last night and what do ya know, my son got up a tad bit better this morning. I think I need to be tougher. Thank you all!

Mary, lots of words of wisdom here. Just wanted to throw something out for consideration. When kids go through life-changing events, like divorce, it can sometimes trigger depression, which in children often comes out as anger. They feel out of control. All of the suggestions on structure, discipline etc all work, and work very well. But, do keep an eye out. If the problem doesn't seem to be getting better in a few weeks, you might want to seek professional help. A good children's counselor can help them identify and verbalize their feelings and help them communicate more appropriately.

Good luck to you!

does he have a bunch of fun stuff in his room? when i was a kid, i had an alarm clock radio and that was pretty much it. my toys were kept in boxes and could be removed when i was sent to my room.

some children have tv's, game systems...whatever else.

i'm just saying, make sure it's an actual punishment to be sent to his room