I was a father at 18, lasted 14yrs. Do as you feel is best for the child, if he is going to bail again; not fair to the child.
Talk about the future & were you both want to go.
Things do change, people change, raising a child is work.

I wouldnt if I were you but thats just me

Three pages w/ out one reply from the OP??? hmmmm.....

I am sick of hearing how mothers do not let the father see the child.....in my opinion there are more dead beat fathers who choose not to have anything to do with the child (only because they may have to spend some money on them)...now lets talk about what is fair.... the child wants to see his father and he doesn't care to be a part of his life....that is sad....children grow up thinking they are not loved instead of growing up knowing his father is a SOB......

The way i'm looking at this and it's no reason for it to happen, but it does. Your both really young and looking at it for not knowing the whole story and there is three sides to a story. He wasen't ready to take on the kinda responcibility and ran. I say just try being friends at this point and nothing more and see where he stand as wanting to be a part of your life and your guys child. If he can't be your friend then nothing else will work.

It's not a tough call.With you and him It's done!! with his son yeah but with measures in place such as was he sending money atleast in the past for his son? That is a small part of beeing a father to start. Even a gift at x-mas?..if he want to have a family start by stepping up to the plate and try being a dad if he wants to start becoming apart of his son's life don't show up empty handed show him want it takes to rise a son he might see what you had to go though without him there anyone can have a kid. It takes a father to care and want to be there without thinking about it. That kid can't feed and cloth himself. Who seen his first step, What was his first word, How was his first day at school, How did you feel having the baby without the father there. a REAL dad wants to know these things cause he cares a REAL dad shows up to see his kid no matter what happened with the mother

Is he working.Is he still hanging out with buddys and is to buzy to come over right now to drive you to the doctors for a check up etc . He left you when it was just you and a big tummy now theres 2 of you and he wants to jump right in? what has changed? now you have a son that is going to be hurt if it happens again and trust me that kid will feel it his whole life even when he is 25 at a ball game seeing dads and sons together will make him think back. its not something one night will fix

Once he has been around for awhile and he is doing these things and it's working out then think about having him with ya and how that works

hope it helps

I would kick that guy's azzzzzzzzz to the curb he wouldnt know what hit him!!!!!!!

thanks for all the opinions...
i gave my babys daddy one more chance and he would only see him if i hung out with him....he said if i stop hanging out with him then he won't see our son anymore and we still haven't heard from him

THE shadow might be right However my opinon he is looking for a booty call not to do anything with your son

im telling ya your setting your self up for a long line of assholes

i say proof is in the pudding! if he loves you and the baby and wants the happy family thing, then prove it. what does he have to bring to the table to provide for you and the baby? if nothing, then he'd have to get that established before i could even consider it!!!

Ok hun you did the right thing. You gave the father and the son a chance to know each other and the father refused. Nowit is up to you to go into family court and get parental rights removed from him (it is not assumed by law) before he tries to cause trouble (depending on the state you are in he can literally come over and tell you that he is taking your child wiht him and there is nothing you can do to prevent it as he IS the father. He would just have to have the police come with him, and the police would arrest you if you tried to refuse him to take his child. Now you could turn around and do the same thing to him, but you see my point, I am sure.
Go into court and get it in writing that he has no custody etc.

Good Luck