I really don't get it. If you say "yes" or "maybe" to someone and they do the same for you, and then you email them to break the ice and never get a response, what's the point? I thought it was supposed to be an easy way to meet others since you could go in knowing that at least they didn't think you were a hideous monster. hahaha enlighten me, please!

I haven't been on here long, but i've noticed the same thing. I think it's because they're just not that interested or changed their minds or shy or just don't care. Keep looking, hon, you'll find him.

Good morning, I agree with you Cutietwo. I quit responding just because of that.

ahhh dont give up girls jus` some of us fellas are shy is all its the old i wait see ifn she mails me thing then you wait a week or so then doubt creeps in an before you know it its been ages !! i try ma best to say hi to the folks i match with even ifn it is jus a "hiya anna !!! some times it works sometimes it dont its all good tho i keep smilin an keep tryin chins up girlys lots of love from me

LOL Good question. I've basically given up on the "mutual match" part, since it doesn't appear that matches even chat back, which seems very strange to me. This has to be the hardest dating site, online, to meet someone...which is just my observation.

mrkush:

If all men on here were as friendly and sincere as you seem to be, there wouldn't be any single women.

a romantic soul by name an nature thankyou

thanks so much for ur encouragement - i'll keep trying and hoping

hay cutie x x x its all good
in your profile are those piccys painted or photos ???

if u're refering to the lightening pics - they're photos

those are super amazing lightening shots! i love 'em!

yup me too they very cool !!!! i paint odd stuff dragons wizards strange worlds those photos would not look out of place amongst the ones i do very cool

Thanks everyone btw, mrkush, I love dragons! U should post some of ur drawings

I, too, am new here.

I've given this mutual match thing some thought. This is what I've come up.

From a numerical standpoint, you better your chances by simply saying 'yes' to all offered matches.

Let's assume that you are not a POS and are simply in a hurry. The MM feature does not present the entire profile. So, you look at the pic, read what little is there and make a decision. Later, say after receiving a message, you read the whole profile and you see the deal breaker. Do you let the other party down nicely, or do you do the human nature thing and avoid confrontation?

Now, let's look at the situation where you are using the system as intended. Now you are in a community slot machine. You are playing against people using one of these three listed methods. When you get three sevens, the result is a meaningful conversation with a maybe-interested person. The rest of the time you are feeding the bandit.

Learn to deal with the never ending rejection, and relish those few wins you do get.

I still think it is better to use the system as intended instead of trying to game it.

I just started using this site but i think I have mutual match figured out. If you say yes to a person they present you with that person also has to tag you with a yes answer before they show up on your list.

I personally said no to most and yes to a handful and I received one mutual match, so either the other women I said yes to, have not used that feature since i put up my profile, or they said no.

Whats funny is that the one mutual match I did receive is pretty much the kind of woman I am looking for so I guess that feature gets my thumbs up!

Have a great day all!