Topic: Need a bit of advice
ravensdarkness's photo
Fri 01/11/08 12:59 PM
I've been talking to this girl for a while and she is really cool. But she is somewhat distant lately. Like she never calls or she will say "I will call you back." but she doesn't. I mean I hadn't seen her in over 2 weeks. So I figure she wants out so I go and try to break it off with her, but she begs me not to and says she is just really busy and stuff and she really likes me.

She acts alright for a day, but then is back to how she was. I don't understand. She just suddenly shut down and wont even talk to me, but doesn't want to break it off. I am so confused.

Any advice?

itsmetina's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:01 PM
move on bringing strung along is no fun

Amalie's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:01 PM
Edited by Amalie on Fri 01/11/08 01:01 PM
sounds like does not know what she wants really...
perhaps you need to just tell her you dont like whats going on and things need to change...
either...she talks to you and you see each other or its over.. dont let her toy with you..its not a good thing!

uk_bloke's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:02 PM
if YOU'RE not happy, and you've already brought the subject up, then put yourself first.

id've ditched her already, but i have special needs that need to be fulfilled :smile:

WOWCANDYKISSES's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:03 PM
Yep, I agree Move on. Guys do the same thing too. Move on for someone that really appreciates you.

Tobias1540's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:04 PM
I have had this happen before my guess is that she is confused about something whether it involves you or not, sometimes people pull away when they need someone the most. It is up to you on how to handle it but i suggest trying to help her threw what ever is going on.

MiSSLiNDS's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:08 PM
LET HER KNOW THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO CONTiNUE GOiNG THROUGH THiS AND EXPLAiN iT TO HER LiKE YOU DiD RiGHT NOW. MAYBE SHE'LL CHANGE. BUT iF SHE DOESN'T i WOULD MOVE ON.

blondguy42's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:10 PM
Hmm, I agree with Tobias, she might be confused about the relationship, but, I would try to sit down with her and talk about whats going on, to me, honesty is the best policy, and to be strung along, man that is not a good feeling. Be cool be strong, it will worl out in the end.
My philosphy" If it is ment to be, it will be"
Take it one day at a time.

no photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:10 PM
sorry to break it to you but she's not into you. that is what someone does when they are looking for someone else but they want their safety net in place... get rid of her it will never change

nonchalantwendy's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:15 PM
This person cannot make a desicion........
you can't have your cake and eat it to.....you deserve better

ravensdarkness's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:16 PM

sorry to break it to you but she's not into you. that is what someone does when they are looking for someone else but they want their safety net in place... get rid of her it will never change


Yes that is what I was thinking but she swore that wasn't it. I had been being nice, and being there. But she seems so non-chalant now.

blondguy42's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:18 PM
Hope all the advice that was given to you helps you , Wendy has said it best" You cant have ur cake and eat it to" .

Dragoness's photo
Fri 01/11/08 01:21 PM
Sounds like she is unsure of what she wants but "just in case" doesn't want you to leave. I would take time away from eachother and see what happens in a month or two.