First off, can we go back to the discussion about dating during the dinosaur age? I'm picturing some sort of hilarious scene where a shy male T-Rex is trying to ask out a Stegosaurus or something along those lines. It's a gold mine.

Secondly, since when did social sluggishness become an excuse? If someone told me they preferred to own slave "because they were old fashioned like that", I'd kick them in the crotch. It's an unacceptable reason. When society moves along and evolves, it's not a legitimate excuse that you didn't feel like coming along for the ride. I'm not saying it's unacceptable for girls to want guys to make the first move...just that it would be better to use a different reason than being old fashioned, IMHO.

guess i'm old fashioned, so i expect the guy the make the first move -- yet I have emailed some guys first and got a response. wheee!

Really? That happened? I don't believe that for a second! She's fibbin.. just a great big fibber I tells ya's!

No..men's MIDOL..isle 3!

Yeah, what's up with that? I think everyone's shy on here...or is it scared?

Personally... I read through many many many profiles. I saw not much of interest. I read lots that were one long sentence without any punctuation. I saw lots of men without shirts. All too many said, "If you want to know anything just ask". I'm lucky that I saw one that made me laugh out loud, at least until the end. But I was hooked by then anyhow, because the profile humor and wit matched the posts I'd read.

If anything, I think we all, both men and women, need to challenge ourselves to show who we really are. To do so you must write things about you that are real, and to show photos of yourself that reflect what you actually look like. Be positive, be persistant, and don't take rejection personally.

How can someone you've never met hurt your feelings if they don't reply to your e-mail? How much effort did you put nto your profile or the e-mail you sent out? (Not directed at any specific person, this is just to people in general).

Or you can write a bunch of absolute nonsense, be totally, and honestly indifferent... and still end up talking to a woman that knocks you out of your indifference...and shoes...and socks too.

I never write to anybody first, and I get tons of e-mail here. You just have to give them something to work with.

Lex- you laugh at yourself and with yourself, and all the time through your posts. You also do a great job teasing, always in generalities of course.

I have not yet said congrats on your romance status changing to "taken": she is a lucky lady. Congratulations!

Lilith, thank you!

Although I have to say that I feel like the lucky one!

Tell me it ain't so, Joe, tell me it ain't so.

You won't quit guiding us lost souls will you?

Well now.

If guys would be so willing to role reverse for everything then I think we would be happy to throw the odd message out there. ROFL

I admit I generally wait for a man to e-mail first. I guess that was the way I grew up.

i never get any new emails only from friends

Nah, I'm not going anywhere. Not till they give me my damn Arby's coupons, anyway....

Usually, I don't make the first move. But, on these sights, I definitely try to make an effort because once you (in general) meet me, you'll realize that I can express myself better with words online. But when it comes to talking to an actual person in front of me, I kind of freeze.

I've always been shy, and I'm trying very hard to come out of my shell.