Why has soemthing that is so good and nice dying in our culture. Most men won't do it and when the ones who do it do women don't seem to like it

Amen brother, I often wonder the same thing! I mean, I try to live by a set of spiritual principles that demands kindness and honesty, but most of society these days has such a negative outlook and attitude on everything! I have seen people that won't even hold a door for a pregnant woman with two arms full of groceries! It makes me sick!

It is still alive in some people

I must say as a woman it is still very much alive at least here in Texas it is. I go to the post office and have had doors held open and I also have done the same for a man or another women. It is at time the lack of gratitude that amazes me that is not seen. So many times I have seen men or women holding doors open or letting another into traffic. You know a simple thank you a smile or wave of the hand is all it takes to let the other know you acknowledge the kindness they have showed you.

When others get to the point that they lack the gratitude that is shown it tends to make others wonder why they even do those things for another.

A smile or thank you will go a long way.

I know why. Cause all the twenty something punks out there are little b*tches that never learned to be nice, or learned manners cause the parents were either working or were trying to be there kids friend or were just not good parents at all. Look, my folks taught me the freaking Golden Rule....Do unto others as you would have done to you.....and that means treating people with respect. But in this day and age, respect is out the freaking window. I had a long talk with my 9 year old cousin the other day when he informed me that even though I was an adult, he didn't have to listen to anything I said cause I was his "cousin". I quickly fixed and changed his little attitude. Hell, his mom and dad don't even get his respect, but that little bast*rd will respect me. In any case, we live in the "ME Generation" and everything is all about ME...ME....ME! That is the problem. Until people can learn to respect others and be nice (and I don't see this changing) this is the way the world will be.

I am raising 4 boys and I tell you this much, they know respect. I taught them manners, they hold the door open and say please and thank you. I wish more of the younger generation would learn some respect towards others. It is just not being taught.

I am also like Texasgal, I hold the door open for others and say thank you or your welcome. It doesn't matter to me what gender or race they are, it still shows respect.

Now do not think this is just the guy's fault because it can definitely go both ways.
In the past 50 years, women have become more independent and as a result, some-mostly the feminists-have come to view modern chivalry as oppressive and disrespectful towards women.
Now ladies, we have all seen those old medieval movies of the knight's and their shining armor coming to sweep away their fair ladies. You all grew up with "Sleeping Beauty" and "Snow White" and dreamed of your prince charming taking you away on his horse. Well, I'm not much on riding horses, but you get the point.
Chivalry in the past was a sign of men showing honor and respect to women. I hate to hear girls spend so much time complaining about men not being respectful when they will not even let a man pull her chair out for her.

I feel sorry for men today because they are not sure what is okay to do anymore.
Now, back to the men. I told you it could go both ways. Is it really that much more work to stop by a local flower shop and buy one, single rose? That would take a total of maybe seven minutes out of your day. Walking around to the other side of the car first would give you some extra exercise while making her smile.
Lets face it some men have just become plum lazy.

LBZ your a sweetheart and a young one at that. Tell your parents I said thank you. These are things I have tried so hard to instill in my own son which is 25 now. When last Valintines day I found out what all the did for the one he was with it brought a smile to my face. Not only did he do the flowers bottle of wine but also cooked her a full dinner set the table the whole nine yards. I knew then that all my talks had gotten through to him. But now I have a daughter too that did go out and buy her b/f a pair of boots for Valintines day both knows life is a two way street. That things are not just done for the ladies but one should as well do for the guys in return.

You get out of life what you put in it. Just like a relationship if you do little things for them hopefully in time they will return those favors. People dont understand that the little things mean more then the big things do. And it is something that both should do.

Have I been with some that did yes a few but not all. It is a blessing to have someone treat you like they appreciate you.