yeah but im known on here as a "joker" happy go lucky..blah blah and i dont whine about my problems...ive always been the ms fixit that everyone else comes to i guess it helps me keep from dealing with my own demons...just lately been weighing heavy is all

No One, and I mean NO ONE is like that all the time. Everyone has problems, issues, things that need to be dealt with. The fact that you are normally happy go lucky is a good start to you being able to get over this.

you guys are great! xoxoxox

the great thing about having demons... is that you can send them back to hell

TRUE!

My relationship wasn't physical abuse it was mental.
& the worse part about it was after I finally got out of it he had me so well trained I continued to mind f*ck myself.

Until I finally got it thru my head that ggeee he would be so proud of himself on it that look he didnt even have to be there to do it...
& even a long time after I worked on that I continued to let the hatred for him take up space in my head...
I am so grateful that he was such a punk & didn't have the balls after our last couple encounters to never come near me again because I might of ended up doin life for killin his azz.

I stand corrected.. & it didn't even come to mind that there was Violence..I didn't feel victomized..(is that a word?)
I had already left him & came down here & he would come trying to get me to come back & I was just done...
He tried to strangle me!
He even put my pj shirt over my face cuz he couldnt look at me & do it....
I was freaking out because I was at my parents & my dad & brother had gone to get food...
All I had on was the shirt no undies (& a cast on my leg) So my nakid ass was showin & im tryin to cover up & I realized Damn!! he's really tryin to kill me!!!
So I kicked him in the head & ran in my mom's room & called her at work..like that would help..

well i have never been physically abused, but if you ask me, emotional is just as bad, if not worse. i have been single for going on 6 months now and still have major trust issues. i know there are some good guys out there but they seem few and far between. but for now i am perfectly content staying single and just browsing forums for now to meet new people. you know I am always here for you if you wanna talk.

I was'nt saying your topic was funny.
Like I stated earlier....I've been there.
After reading your message, you might understand.
These things are not a laughing matter!
I just dont like everyone to know everything about me.

I have so many trust issues and I have never been "abused" but I've been lied to, led on, taken advantage of.

i know suz you rock.

ive had to have some surgical proceedures due to it. i took 14 blows just to the face not counting the rest of it all. luckily no scaring the surgery was dental...he took out 9 teeth, 2 of them molars, so that was some heavy blows. its been tough. this was a man i was supposed to be marrying. it came from no where! he wasnt drinking, no drugs, nothing, even he didnt know wht happened or why. needless to say, that was the end of that

wow I am so sorry you had to go thru that and thank God you came out of it alright. I had 2 friends murdered by violent men.

ditto

he had fully intended to kill me. i knew that. i had to talk my way out of it until he snapped back. no one knows why he did what he did, but i was not willing to take the chance to happen again. i may not have been lucky enough to talk my way out of another attack

i have a friend who is in a relationship where the guy just uses her for money and she has broken up with him 7 times in 3yrs but she always comes back to him when he comes crying to her. i pray that he does not become physically abusive to her.

sounds like sociopathic behavior...ive learned about that alot lately lol i pray she gets rid of him!

thanks guys this helps being able to talk about it tonight!

Yes, I was. Trust and Dating was not my problem tho. I was in the relationship for 7yrs, I was afraid. I hated men for awhile after we split up then later divorced. I made it through it, but yes trust has always been an issue for me. I don't mean for it to be that way, life has made me this way. I have been through relationships that I have ran from and some that have left me brokenhearted. Through every relationship that I've been through I just pick myself up and start a new day. I never know what might be waiting for me around the corner. I never, ever let it get me down and I'm a stronger person because of it.

What I am saying is Don't Let ONE A**hole Bring YOU down because YOU are worth so much more. Good Luck in YOUR search.

amen trueokie...they say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger...

hun in the past i was physically, mentally and emotionally abused by my ex husband...it is a very hard thing to completely get over, but you can do it and you will be a much stronger and wiser woman.no man or woman has the right to treat another that way! it was years before i could trust another man but i am so glad that i finally came to terms with what happened and i know none of it was my fault. it takes time and a lot of effort but you can and will survive and learn to trust again. you are in my prayers, hun and you are among good friends here!

im really glad i did this! i needed to hear this all! thank you all so very very much!

I spent 10 years getting beat up by ex, he was a violent alcoholic, went so far as to pull guns on me and tried to strangle me once. He said he would kill me if I left, but I finally got the guts and left, took me years to get over the abuse though. Still have trust issues.

I would tell you to go really slow with anyone you get involved with, know them really well and trust your instincts, if something doesn't feel right - trust that feeling. Also, check around for a Battered Women's Group. I went to one after my breakup and it was a real eyeopener and helped me a lot. I am really glad you got out when you did, you are a survivor. Take care of yourself.