I have a 16 month old daughter she is my only child and the love of my life. The only problem is she is extremly attached at first i didn't mind but now things r starting to suffer like my sex life with my husband. She has a ton of toys and videos to keep her entertained but she still wants to b on me all the time practically.

you need to start leaving her for short periods of time in a playpen hun ..extend the time as you go on...shes going to cry but if shes fed, changed and has toys ...shes fine...it will be attention crying ...if you dont start now will be worse when shes older...plus this helps them in imagination play and concentration levels ...also do this at bedtime...work in childcare hun so have dealt with this before..promise you she will be fine

try to cherish the moments for one day you will wish you had them ..obviously the child loves you alot and if your sex life has to suffer a little all i can say is welcome to the world of being a parent ..i am speaking from experience too my son was the same way ....

This advice is on the money......it works and You will enjoy the transition when she is a little older

this happens when you have kids. first thing to do is get used to it

but on the other hand, try not to let your baby stay with you all the time. it needs to learn just a bit of independence, but make sure you don't go overboard

just remember this is what you asked for when you had a kid. of course your sex life is gonna suffer. its a part of having a family lol

Good advise so far so I won't repeat:

But this post doesn't make any sense at all to me. At 16 months she should be sleeping on her own at night or even afternoon naps.

How is it possible to screw up sex after she goes to sleep at night?

Plus she is 16 months..... You have another 50 years for sex so I don't think a slight reduction (if any) should be hard on a relationship that was created knowing what children bring to the couples lives and future.

Enjoy the warmth and compassion she has and praise her for playing alone..... or get her a bro or sis. Heck create tonght!

haha no offense but it sounds like u've never taken care of a baby before. even at 16 months they still wake up in the night and cry. ive seen it before

but ur right, giving her a bro or sis would be good for her. give that some thought and talk it over w/ ur husband

I appreciate the advice som of it I will use. Yes she does sleep @ night but unfournatly she dosen't always go down easily, quietly, or early. I made the mistake of giving in 2 her too much and Im paying 4 it now. My daughter is an exteremly stong willed and very advanced 4 her age. We have tried havin sex during nap time or when she goes bed at night she either wakes right in the middle of our trying or she gives me such a hard time by the time she finally goes to bed Im either to tired or not in the mood anymore. I understand that children especially babies cuz the sex suffer but try expalining that to my husband who is bout to lose his mind cuz he is only getting sex once or twice a month if hes lucky

As 4 brother and sis I don't believe in bringing a new life into the world completly ready to want and take care of them.

Great advise but I would not reccomend a playpen for this issue. not at 18 months. However get a gate for the doorway(s) and lock her in say the living room, while you sit in the next room over. She is still in sight so you can keep an eye on her, and everything said above follows right on in as well. That is the best thing you could do for her. Otherwise she will never learn independance and she WILL learn to manipulate you and daddy through it.

Good Luck

I'll help you out with that sex life problem Rozzy720

Hey,"Rozzy",How is your "husband" Cesaer007 doing???

I would definitely agree that you need to start leaving her alone for short periods. I'll tell you why-- My best friend's son is now 14 months old. He is only comfy around mommy, daddy and her parents! If strangers came up to him and showed him attention, he would start to fuss, until he met me! He was very relaxed, let me hold him and everything. One morning, her mom couldn't watch him for her, so she dropped him off at my house, and after she left, at 6am, all he did was cry! I settled him down for a little while, until about 7:30am when my 2 kids awoke, he started screaming again! I eventually had to call her at work and have her pick him up. The minute she walked thru the door he stopped crying!

I would also cherish the time you have with her. They are so small and lovable right now (well they will always be lovable, right?) but you do need to prevent your daughter from becoming too dependent. I didn't have any family to help watch my kids, but I did have a best friend that would watch my older daughter for the 4 hours I was at work. This helped her to get used to her mommy time and her alone time. You just need to find a balance!

I appreciate that comment ur right that could happen but ironically my daughter is very social she luvs people well women she is a little shy around men but thats a good thing she only is attached to me when their is noone else. Ive decided that Im going to put her back in her old daycare maybe being around kidz the majority of the day will help become more independent at home.

Well then, I guess she just loves her mommy sooooooo much! I know my kids were a bit clingy when i went back to school and they didn't really get to see me. Now, over my winter break, it is almost impossible to have me time.. lol.. but i don't mind.

studies show that more attachment correlates with BETTER adjusted children. the more the attachment, the less the clinginess.

tell her to read a book

My son has to be in the same room with me most of the time.He will go to his room and play but he gets lonely and comes downstairs again.We may not be doing the same things but we chat back and forth etc.the companionship is priceless to me.When he was little i could not be out of his sight and now he constantly creeps into bed with me at night.But he goes to school and daycare no problem.He has been in daycare since my divorce (because i work) and this gives him the social interaction he needs and work is my break from him.He is seven.

Since my divorce, my youngest daughter(11) has become very clingy. If I'm in a different room she calls for me every few minutes to check on me. Guess she is worried I'll leave like her Dad did....

thats my sons problem also chirya....