I think any reasonably intelligent man or woman would not just go for it.
Plus, you should realize a career is more than a job.
I've changed locations over great distances and stayed in my career.
I've even relocated within a company to another region to be closer to my family but kept both my job and my status within my career.

Many people want to romanticize 'love' as if there is nothing in life more important, then life wakes you up. Love doesn't 'always' find a way to make it work. If you are fortunate you might be in a situation where the issue never comes up. Good luck with that.

Chances are, like c`tom said, the issue probably isn't career. Something else is going on causing focus on the career. Plus, chances are the career was there before the love developed, it was probably part of the reason the love developed. I had my career long before I met my X.
People who have careers usually demonstrate the qualities beneficial to relationships. Much more than someone who switches jobs frequently with periods of joblessness. I was never out of work more than a month.

Yes, when I became manager and long days turned into nights & weekends it put a strain on our relationship but our relationship was stronger than that and we worked it out. It wasn't till I became disabled and my career was gone that our relationship issues started forming. She still had her career. I never had issue with it.

"Your Career or Me"
It all reminds me of shallow, stingy people living in a fantasy.
Grow the hell up!

When my job doesn't feel like one, I'd say I have a career. When I start my day, and have it go in a completely different direction than what I set out to do, Then I'd say I've become indispensable to those who know and hire me.

I call it being a fireman. This has flown apart, HELP! So I drop what I'm in the middle of, and go patch the dam. It might not happen for weeks. It could happen 3-4 times in a week.

I never set out to be able to do this. My life's job plan was to work at one occupation. But, when something breaks on the farm, one must fix what broke. Which is where I started.

Your average farmer has to be a mechanic, welder, designer, bookkeeper, heavy equipment operator, truck driver, chemist, arborist, environmentalist, carpenter, critter doctor, entomologist, plumber, electrician, machinist, manager, and probably a dozen other things I can't think of at this moment. So what does it make you? Very employable.

I come from that background. But I haven't farmed in decades. I don't have to, people find me.

I guess you could call me a tradesman. But I never have worked long enough at one trade to get bored with it. And my work is my love life.

Many tradesmen are flexible because to become 'good' ya gotta be versatile.
I grew up on a farm, that experience helped me as a fleet mechanic but I could cut grass, do drywall and a whole slew of things because I could adapt well.

As a fireman, anyone who gets to know you knows your job is a dangerous one.
Just like someone who marries a cop - there's a certain amount of threat in any labor career.

A woman who marries a professional firefighter or cop should already know the danger is part of the career choice and was okay with it when they met you.
If they throw 'your career or me' out there the fault is not the career, its something else. The career was there already, inside you.

The thing about lifelong careers is ya do it because you are driven to do it.
Its part of who you want to be, who you are and who you will always be.

i choose both

I already did Both.

Love.