Why only the guys that are older that have used up there days to play around seeking to settle down and married am confused

Ask them, not me. I'd say it's pretty safe to assume they've outgrown those days and they have matured. I.e., it got old.

Maybe they are tired and old.

It makes no sense to me at that stage some can hardly get an erection why should a woman sit with you then and be unpleased

I may be older but I certainly haven't used ip my days.

The true worth of a man is not in his pants

You could always join a social group or activity which includes men in the age group you want to meet . Best of luck

It’s a package no matter what way you look at it if a man meets a woman who can’t preform or bring ford a child especially if he doesn’t have it’s a big deal for him. I see older ladies out here seeking younger guys and older guys seeking younger ladies so don’t lie to your self sex is apart of a relationship bond or marriage

Are you new to online dating and the internet?


If they haven't used up their days to play around, why would they stop?

IMO seems kinda like asking "why are only the poor, old, desperate people with handicaps and no job skills willing to accept this 10 year contract for minimum wage?"

You gotta look at, from their perspective, what is their benefit, what are their risks, what are their options (your competition from their perspective), and what you "really" have to offer for what you're seeking.

What is the advice that's been plastered all over the internet, news articles, online dating and advice sites for the past 20+ years?
"You're too young to settle down. Focus on your career, your education. Be independent. Go out and have fun." And (if you're older) things like "60 is the new 40!" Or "40 is the new 20!"
And that doesn't even begin to cover the whole "find your inner child" phenomenon.


Have you ever known someone that said, or seen, read, or heard, or maybe done it yourself, to a guy "let's just be friends?"

It makes no sense to me, at any stage, where there's perfectly good erections, why should a man sit with her then and be unpleased.