I have a colostomy and also a hysterectomy due to cancer 11 yrs ago. I don't really care about sex anymore, but am still interested in other intimacy. My partner of 23 yrs died 2 yrs ago.She didn't care about any of it because she loved me so much. I'm also past 70. I don't want any body contact that involves the ostomy area with anyone else. With my long term partner, I just wore underwear. Do you think I can find someone for an intimate friendship without sex or am I dreaming?

I would think you're off to the right start.............honesty.

Are there recovery / support groups that may help?

Good luck...............

hello Paula intimacy has layers and for many sex is not a priority or necessity in later life... i believe you can find what you are seeking

Have you heard of ostomy wraps ???

They are like a boob tube for your abdomen ..,as this video shows .. they look very sexy and feminine . Also simple and inexpensive to make if you come across any fabric you like .. can be worn with or or without underwear . Lycra cameo tops can be cut into a band and overseen with lace or satin ... whatever your personal taste is ... something you could have fun experimenting with .

http://youtu.be/OrM-2UHrMlo

Of course you can! Just don't be surprised IF it takes longer or is more difficult. The person for you will understand because that person will be mature and have empathy and levels of selflessness. That person will love you enough to meet you where you're at and compromise. You know the rest. haha Good luck young lady!

Thanks so much for the video. Had no idea there was such a thing. I believe it will work for me!

Wow. Really needed those pep talks. The quarantine makes everything feel worse too.

I don't need one yet ... but...
those where really cool ... learn something everyday.... thanks