Tonight what is on my mind concerns a rather notable, some might say sad phenomenon that I have observed on the platform in the time that I have been on it. The real quandary is not one that someone who posts a profile necessarily perpetuates in and of themselves exclusively. As much it could be said to be a transgression of societal norms towards someone that is reaching out for connection with another.

It is no secret that in many societies ageism is a social irritant. Someone looking their best no matter the number of their age is based upon individual capability and/or choice. However, the need to lower one's age from what it actually is on a profile to appeal to an ageist group of people is rather dystopian in nature. This is evidently seen in profiles where the age is stated as one that is changed over a number of days or one in which the age stated is more than likely higher than what is stated.

It follows logically that if someone out of desperation or deception states their chronological age younger than what truly is then they can be setting themselves up for deceptions from the receiving audience. It is difficult to build a foundation that stands the test of time when the entry point is a falsehood.

This is something that a person can decide the value of for themselves. However, perhaps William Shakespeare said it best in Hamlet when Polonius said, "...To thine own self be true."

Cliff notes: People lie about their age.

It’s just one thing people aren’t always honest about. If you have any
intentions of actually meeting someone, I agree, honestly is the best policy.

Is it truly an age of honesty or is that a delusion?

"Best" is relative.


Perhaps what you call "societal norms" is not actually "societal norms"?

Currently, societal norms are media driven.
"I want what I want, when I want it and I'll do anything I can, to get it all, right now." Including but not limited to, Lying and Cheating.


Perhaps you mean 'deceptive in nature' which is quite different than dystopian in nature.
Dystopia embraces honesty.
Utopia requires a certain amount of deception (either personal or societal).
This is because societies require unity for alignment.


Most people do not exist with a calendar super-imposed over their vision.
Chronological age does not equal the age you feel. Someone who is 50 year old can feel as though they are 38 or 42. Likewise, someone who is 60 years old can feel like they are 70 or 80.
You can 'look' old but 'feel' younger.


I agree.

Thing is, many people fear divulging their truths online to a bunch of strangers. Some have a problem showing their true selves even to close friends and family.

Many have no idea what to write in their profiles so they write what they expect others will find alluring. Often, what they write has a bit of truth or has a past of truth. Its all meant to say..."Pick Me".

The trick to using the online dating tool is to use it as intended.
To find a real person.
You might think you can date a profile but that won't work for long.
The only truth you will know is how that person interacts with you in real-time, face to face experiences.
Online dating tools are merely ways to locate those potential real-life people you might find unity with in real life.

Choose Wisely

2 times now I was honest, I'm always honest but these two times. A guy asked me what I do for a living. I can't work, I'm disabled. He split really fast. Second guy. I said that I am divorced and taking control of my life. He said that he takes control in the bedroom. This happened in his second email. good bye. Last night I was talking to an older guy, one that didn't make those kinds of remarks. One that read my profile and asked me about my life.

As the great bard once said; "brevity is the soul of wit".

*Belch!*

This is the Internet! Everyone is a stranger, Until you meet in person and spend time with the Real person.