Topic: i cant forget about her
lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:11 PM



moving fast is a sure way to scare someone off. right after my divorce, I moved way too fast with a guy, moved in with him after only a week... it was nice the first couple of months, then the problems started and I ended up right back where i was after my divorce, single, hurt, and confused.

i had to learn to be single again, and be happy with it, now that i have. i'm much better off. i'd love to be in a relationship, but i'm not going to jump into anything. i'm just gonna take things slow and whatever happens, happens!
yeah im afraid to get into another relationship. she was my first and only one and im afraid im just going to mess up the next one and i cant deal with that
time heals all bro, just keep busy with friends etc.!!!
yeah i mostly just work my ass off and write songs

popcornncoke's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:12 PM
IT TOOK ME YEARS TO GET OVER MY EX.HE LEFT ME WITH 5 BOYS TO RAISE.I FEEL CHEATED CAUSE THERE WAS THINGS THAT I NEEDED TO SAY TO HIM AND I NEVER GOT TO,UNTIL 10 YEARS AGO.I LET HIM HAVE IT.THEN I WAS OVER HIM.I LEARN THAT I DIDN'T NEED HIM.TIME WILL COME WHEN YOU SAY,OH SHE'S JUST SOMEONE I USE TO KNOW.. GOOD-LUCK.

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:13 PM

you can't worry about messing up. things always happen for a reason. if things dont work out, just means she wasn't the right one. just something that you'll have to accept, and over time learn to move on! it's always hard, especially with your first love! i'd love to tell you things will get easier, they won't, but eventually you will learn how to deal with things, and it will seem easier!
some days are better then others. i always find myself looking on her myspace and it just upsets me more but i keep doing it for some reason

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:14 PM

IT TOOK ME YEARS TO GET OVER MY EX.HE LEFT ME WITH 5 BOYS TO RAISE.I FEEL CHEATED CAUSE THERE WAS THINGS THAT I NEEDED TO SAY TO HIM AND I NEVER GOT TO,UNTIL 10 YEARS AGO.I LET HIM HAVE IT.THEN I WAS OVER HIM.I LEARN THAT I DIDN'T NEED HIM.TIME WILL COME WHEN YOU SAY,OH SHE'S JUST SOMEONE I USE TO KNOW.. GOOD-LUCK.
i think the reason why i cant move on is because i never got to tell her how i felt and how much pain she put me through

canubetheone's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:14 PM
Was with mine for 10yrs took me a whole year to get over him. Where still friends an now we both have someone new in our lives. Its hard but it will get better

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:15 PM
i wrote this for her recently...im trying to make it into a song
I wonder why things happen the way they do
Not to long ago i was you.

It's so hard to watch your life flash before your eyes
I'll never forget the words you said; especially the lies.

I was so blinded that i couldn't even see;
What you said went right past me.

I knew you never cared, it all was fake
but you wanted everything you could possibly take.

I cared so much but I wasen't good enough
I'm giving up now, I don't give a fcuk.

Live your life and i'll live mine
all I have to do is give it some time.

It's not going to be easy but i'm going to try
I wish it wasen't so hard to say goodbye.

I don't need you or anyone else
I can do just fine by myself.

I'm waking up and realizing the cold hearted truth
I didn't want to believe that i was simpily used.

How could you be so strong to just break my heart in two?
I knew i'd get hurt but i never thought by you.

You lied to my friends and you lied to me
I guess everything wasen't ment to be.

I don't want you so don't ever come back
This is the end and it's going to stay like that.

I don't want you or your bull**** in my life
I wish i never met you, it would have been nice.

It's time to move on and forget the past
It will soon fade but the memories will last.

I'm not going to worry about anything especially you
We're done, It's over,Fcuk it,I'm threw.

HJFinAZ's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:16 PM

i wish i could just forget about my ex but i cant....any sugestions


Don't have to "forget" her. just have to let her go.. JMO

seahawks's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:17 PM
wow.!!!

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:17 PM


i wish i could just forget about my ex but i cant....any sugestions


Don't have to "forget" her. just have to let her go.. JMO
im tryin

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:18 PM

wow.!!!
heh yeah just something i came up with in my drunken stupor lol

HJFinAZ's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:18 PM

she broke my heart and then cut off all comunication with me


Pain is neccessary for spiritual growth, the suffering is optional.. That was my experience..

andreajayne's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:19 PM


you can't worry about messing up. things always happen for a reason. if things dont work out, just means she wasn't the right one. just something that you'll have to accept, and over time learn to move on! it's always hard, especially with your first love! i'd love to tell you things will get easier, they won't, but eventually you will learn how to deal with things, and it will seem easier!
some days are better then others. i always find myself looking on her myspace and it just upsets me more but i keep doing it for some reason


I did the same thing! It didnt help me at all that his, now wife, would message me on there, and just be like how are you doing? blah blah blah, like she wanted to be my friend. it wasnt until one day I decided that i was hurting myself, that I decided to never look at their pages again, and I even put them on block so neither of them could contact me on there again. a few phone calls from him later, a threat to file harassment charges on him if he continued to call me, and it stopped, and I was finally able to move on! it's been 2 months now since I've had any contact with him, and life is so much better.

As long as you hold on to her, you will always hurt. the moment you decide to let her go, everything will start to improve, and you can finally move on!


lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:19 PM
in a way i do feel stronger for going through it. im more mindfull of peoples perception of me

Big3Deuce's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:20 PM
Man, you just got to go out and get a new chick. Dont let her bring you down. Go have some fun and forget about her.

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:21 PM
Edited by lavos28 on Wed 12/19/07 09:22 PM



you can't worry about messing up. things always happen for a reason. if things dont work out, just means she wasn't the right one. just something that you'll have to accept, and over time learn to move on! it's always hard, especially with your first love! i'd love to tell you things will get easier, they won't, but eventually you will learn how to deal with things, and it will seem easier!
some days are better then others. i always find myself looking on her myspace and it just upsets me more but i keep doing it for some reason


I did the same thing! It didnt help me at all that his, now wife, would message me on there, and just be like how are you doing? blah blah blah, like she wanted to be my friend. it wasnt until one day I decided that i was hurting myself, that I decided to never look at their pages again, and I even put them on block so neither of them could contact me on there again. a few phone calls from him later, a threat to file harassment charges on him if he continued to call me, and it stopped, and I was finally able to move on! it's been 2 months now since I've had any contact with him, and life is so much better.

As long as you hold on to her, you will always hurt. the moment you decide to let her go, everything will start to improve, and you can finally move on!


i hate her so much yet i cant forget about her

andreajayne's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:21 PM
after reading that, you know what you need to do, you know how you feel, now it is time to act on what you know. You are half way there!

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:22 PM
:smile: thanks

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:25 PM
she broke my heart at a music fest with all my fav bands and now i cant listen to any of them without thinking about her

steelangel's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:25 PM
It took me 7 months and a drastic lifestyle change (joining the Navy) to make me forget.

lavos28's photo
Wed 12/19/07 09:28 PM

It took me 7 months and a drastic lifestyle change (joining the Navy) to make me forget.
wow really? i auctually thought of joining the army for a little bit but im so out of shape lol