Is there something wrong with just saying hi i am not interested

Some women get literally hundreds of messages a day.

No reply IS a reply.

Move on with life.

Haha!! Wise words

You have to remember that the power of the reply is in the hands of the person doing the replying. They can choose to reply or not. If they do not reply it could be because of any number of reasons, one being because they do not feel your profile interests them enough to reply. I could agree with them on that one because you list no interests and have no write up about yourself so how could anyone know if they have anything in common with you? Also you say you are separated but are looking for dating. A red flag in many ladies eyes since they will feel that you just want action on the side while being married. Also you say "No Answer" to a couple of things, another no no when trying to attract someone. But in answer to your post, replying with a "hi, I am not interested" could be polite way of saying no but you have to remember that some people get a ton of mail and if they have to reply to every single one they would have no time to do anything else on this site. Having said all that, good luck to you sir.

I started on this site giving the courtesy of replying that I'm not interested. Eventually I recognized that too many messages were from men who seemed to send a canned message to any female whose pic they liked, without reading profile. So I stopped bothering to send reply to idiots who can't read. Write something that includes the woman's name and shows that you have read her profile. Don't bother those who are too far from a match. Give her a reason to respond.

Patience dear

No.. Nothing is wrong in saying No but only mannered people do like this..

Yes, there is something wrong with that. People then think a dialogue has begun and message more.
It is easier to ignore messages.

I totally agree with you.

You reply politely you’re not interested and they won’t accept it and continue to message!

Absolutely agree. More effective to ignore contact from those who aren't a potential fit.

And this is why I no longer waste my time in writing messages to "ladies" on this and most other sites. I have much better and enjoyable things to do with my time!!

And so do we ladies!

As you said, I’ve got better things to do than message “I’m not interested thank you” multiple times to guys who won’t take no for an answer!

Do you really want a ‘Hi I’m not interested’ reply from all those you contact?
Doubtful. What you really mean is why aren’t any of the women I contact
interested? Now you have something meaningful you can try to figure out.

I think it is a matter of polarization.

Interested or not interested?

How about more interested and not as interested?


When there is no common understanding established, one person will push and the other will pull to restore balance.


Another matter is compatibility.

I always get a reply.

*shrug*

Hell, I hardly ever get a reply. And I've never got a date off this site.

I got a reply, a meet and a relationship at this site.

One must first understand the function of a tool before they can effectively use it.

Many of the men in the forums are gentlemen, some are not, but There are a HUGE number that are not, that are not in these forums.. These I call, "hit and runs".... they usually are rude, terribly persistent, and when they receive a negative reply, they get EXTREMELY passive-aggressive to say the least....

It's actually amazing women reply to anyone at all after dealing with this.... I sure wouldn't. I would have turned into "She-Hulk, the online smash murderer" by now.


So you women that do reply, I'm amazed at your candor, wit, patience, and INCREDIBLE composure!

(((((((((((((((((((Bows with incredible respect))))))))))))))))))))))