When my mother fell ill (temporarily) as the oldest girl I assumed the motherly chores. After a few shrunken outfits and broken dishes I learned. I admit that my 20 year old son still brings his laundry to his mom but in return there are things around the house he (willingly) does for his old mom. As when they were young, if it doesn't make it to the laundry room, it doesn't get washed.

There is validity to each school of thought and I feel no side is right. How we raise our children is our own personal responsibility and we do what we feel is best for them.

I see nothing wrong with having them do their own, nor do I see anything wrong with doing it for them.

Everyone has their own means of teaching responsibility to our young. I think the problem is to many don't. Kids learning to do household chores should start very young with putting toys away. Then helping clean, do dishes, laundry; whatever the parent thinks is proper. But they do need to be taught to work & help around the house.

Lack of this is one of societies major problems.

SPOILED KIDS.

I don't think that refraining from handing out chores results in a spoiled kid.

He / she just won't function properly out in the real world. Even as young as in school they won't repsond well to rules. It's not that they're spoiled, they just don't see why they would have to obey rules outside if they don't at home.

When they're older, they'll carry it on into the workplace. And probably live dysfunctional lives...