can anyone give me a mature, logical answer to this question?


why are people so obsessed with looks? when did looking good replace having a good personality?


(please no smart ass remarks, this is a serious post)

Want a real answer? Genetics. Your DNA tells you who should be attractive based on their overall health and reproductive ability.

There, you have 1 serious answer.

i remember meeting this hot guy in a club real yummy, personalty of a gnat, bored me silly, i left him after 5 minutes it was either that or die of boredom

debbie

i did try coco honest but he was to busy posing to chat

i guess the real reason why i posted this is i'm looking for someone who can look past the outside, but i'm just not having any luck in that area so far

^^^^yeah what he said. Pretty much we are all animals. There is a relief that comes with the truth though. Looks is merely the first impression. At all boils down to survival and reproduction. You ever look at someone the is kinda ugly then after you get to know them, over the course of time they become better looking? That's because he or she proved their ability to survive and reproduce as you got to know them. It's really quite interesting and humerous to realize that humans, just like animals, have a bit of a mating dance. I guess what I'm stretching to say is that how you carry yourself is just as important as looks when it comes to physical appearence.(I know that sounded dumb) Sorry im a bit tired....

I enjoy being around eye candy. But I don't live for it. Can you see spending 40 years every morning waking up to shrek with breasts? No I'd rather be single.

this is because women look for other characteristics in long-term mates - their ability to provide, their compassion, etc.

if you were just looking to get laid one time, your DNA would definitely prefer that you bang the hunky guy compared to the homely one from MENSA - it's just genetics, sweetie

i know i said this was a serious post, but that was funny

Well, sir, I think we all wonder that from time to time. Fortunately for you, you're male. Ladies tend to be less superficial than we are and, so long as you're not a quazzy motto look-a-like, you can make up for a lot in knowing how to approach them and talk to them.

That's not to say you can go around looking like a slob either. But it's been my experience that women tend to accept 'average looking' without too many qualms so long as you dress well, groom well, and speak well.

Keep in mind that just because we tend to discriminate based mostly on looks, that every rejection we encounter isn't necessarily for the same reason. We've all seen the perfect 10 blonde bombshell walking arm in arm through the mall with the tubby wolrd of warcraft hero. Maybe he's rich. lol. But maybe he just knew how to talk to her.

They get approached all day every day. The key isn't to look like every other frat boy asshat before, but to present yourself in a way to show you're not the typical hormonal walking penis that comes up to her 10 times a day.

As far as why? Well that's just biological. We're evolutionarily programmed to seek out the best chances of survival for ourselves and our offspring. As Darwin said, survival of the fittest. Attractiveness to us is usually health indicators: facial symmetry, proportionate and healthy looking bodies, smooth skin, shiny hair, etc. Part of it's natural and part of it's catalyzed by TV and Magazines glorifying beauty.

Unfortunately, my friend, it is what it is. But if it makes you feel any better, I am not a pretty man, but I'm here to tell ya, the sun shines on a dog's ass every once in a while!! ;-) lol

Honestly i think physical attraction is very important, but also keep in mind that what people find attractive varies. A personality is what will make or break a relationship. But it also takes awhile to get to know what someones real personality is, that's why its difficult to judge someone on their "personality" at first glance and might be easier to notice if you find them physically attractive.
Just my opinion

Me either, but not gonna stop looking.

yeah but see, i'm not even concerned with sex right now! i just want someone who will care about me besides those in my family, you know?

And I've dated some that were eye candy but their personality reminded me of shrek with breasts.

Well if they can't look past the outside and look at who
you are inside... You would not want that person anyway.
Hang in there- someone is bound to see the real you and
like you for who you are.

I think it is rather shallow of a person if they only look at
someones looks. They are missing out on knowing some great people inside past their looks...

And then I've dated breasts like shrek. They were big.

darling how can you lay a guy who would be worrying wether he looks good in that position or the other, plus he might haved messed his hair, would have been a shame lol i prefer someone who can laugh and make me smile

Guess what movie I'm watching?