u know what, you seem so depressed. you need to give this whole thing a chance and stop looking at the bad in everything. when u get all depressed, it shows, and it scares people. how can someone see you thru all that sadness??? you must have something worth offering to us girls. just be yourself, im telling you. there are so many of us who need a good man, and are good people. u just need to open up and let someone in. i think thats what going on here. call me crazy, but trust me, i know. smile for once and see what happens. have heard of try try again??

im not depressed
im real
im happy
i just view it like this and opened my eyes to reality
i go by love and all, i love to have fun, but my serious side is too deep and others cant cope nor bare to understand thism, so this is why you say im depressed, but im not and i wont be fooled!

okay, its like this, you seem depressed to people, and like i said, its scary to some. you having a much deeper side just means you are sensitive. dont worry bout what the majority thinks!!! thats your mistake!!! be yourself and expect it to take time!!! its okay if it takes a little while. Ive been at this for months and have scared the **** out of a few of you, lmao, but i just dont pay it any attention, and let things happen. you just be yourself, and if she cant love you for that, then she isnt worth your time cause you are special, and someone will love you as you are!!!

so let it scare others, but i wont be brainwashed like tha rest, tha more you try to tell me this it doesnt do anything, cause this is ta reality, i just wanted to see if anyone else else this way or views it like this and i myself im not tryin to be like others i will always go by love but i know there are certain girls who dont like guys like me and dats fine with me

Well, I'm 46 and when I was in my 20s there would have been no way I'd hook up with a fatty or a too skinny guy. Appearances/chemistry matters. Well, at least it did more than it does for me now. I think the older we get the more we require a good conversation, and fun times together so we tend to overlook the figure thing.

Note: I'd still never date a skinny guy - but that's just me.

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Body doesn't make longevity, personality, outlook, motivation, etc.... make for longevity. I too have dated men of different weights and good or supposed bad looks, I am now single so none of it worked but I will continue to look for his disposition, attitude, positivity, self respect, how he treats others, his relationship with his children, etc..... I am hoping I will find that fit that makes relationships work.

Girls SAY that but its a half lie. No matter how great a personality is, if the person does not fit their ideal of physical attractiveness in some way, they wont be interested. I hate to say that, but its true, so somebody prove me wrong.