in life you will come to a point where everything seems like too exhausting,, i come to point in my life which i feel like everything that i do is for people that i love the most but now a days that i need someone to hold it seems like nobody cares, seems like im lost that all i could see and feel is darkeness and emptiness,, im searching for someone that can listen and understand without prejudice ,is it to much to ask for it,,, haisssst im so lost️️

Hi Beth, there was a time when I felt the same way. Unfortunately and fortunately, I had to take time to travel through that darkness... alone!

Finding a confidant or maybe even a counselor who can be supportive to you during that journey into self can be helpful and is highly suggested if you are experiencing deep depression. We can't get those needs met through other people, it's an inward journey. Otherwise they become what we've been to others... and it becomes a unhealthy co-dependent relationship.

I wish you luck in finding your way into the light. Hanging out in the forums is a good way to meet friends and discover things about yourself as well. I originally came here to find love, and have... both for myself and in friendships. As far as the right man for me... that will come in time.

Welcome to the forums and best of luck to you.

IMO yes. That is too much to ask for.
Because what you're ultimately asking is for someone to subordinate themselves to your ego. To make you their focus, so you can pour out your darkness and emptiness and take from them so you no longer feel "emptiness."

IMO the only thing that might even remotely actually help in the long term is focus on hobbies where there is tangible evidence of success and achievement that you can learn to value.
Learn to paint. Take up carpentry. Make bead jewelry. Put together scrap books or collages. Learn an instrument and write your own songs. Read and write your own poetry. If you do but it's not satisfying? Try something else with even a minimal spark of interest.

Whatever actually creates something that you can always cherish, have a memory of, look at and realize the effort you put into it. And if possible, preferable, to look at and compare with future works to see how you've grown, gotten better.
There's a reason why the olympics give gold, silver, and bronze medals rather than just a phone call after a couple of weeks saying "good job!"

If you focus on people to fill up your "emptiness" or add "lightness" to your "darkness" it's just going to end up in a self perpetuating downward spiral of using people and shattered shallow relationships.

Because no one validates anyone without reciprocation. Councilors? Dates? "Friends?" They only exist as long as you give them something in return.
The desire is for something positively synergistic.

Not for one sided help to dig someone out of their depression or funk.
There's a reason why psychologists charge money.
No one wants to be another's life preserver and validation pacifier for the sake of it.

And sitting around online like on forums to make friends? It's shallow. Delusional people with weak personalities find friends online.
They will crack easily.
Look at the forums set up for people to chat with each other in the open.
Full of false flirting and flattery for mass consumption of bored people keeping each other at a safe distance because anything closer is too scary.

The best you can hope for in finding someone that will listen, commiserate, "deal" with your lostness, darkness, emptiness, are those that are ultimately using it for their own entertainment.
As soon as you stop being entertaining, or start asking for anything that isn't convenient to them? On to the next forum, website, profile, whatever.
You'll find very little pressure is needed to make them disappear, invalidating pretty much everything you think they have done for you, or care about you.

Going online and telling people you're sad and weak and need people to just "listen?" That's like blood in the water for sharks.
Bait for predators.

You need to learn to care about yourself. Value what you can do with your own strengths, skills, and abilities. Learn to be able to make commitments to yourself and follow through.


Of course, IMO it should be mentioned, there are a looooot of people on the internet that have manipulated themselves into feeling "like nobody cares, lost, darkness, emptiness."
Some people never grew up. You know how a baby can progress in its crying when it's perceived needs aren't met soon enough?

Similar to that, adults make themselves feel worse and worse because they are ultimately looking for mommy or daddy to come in and pick them up and nurture them.
As adults, they don't want any responsibility. They just want to cry and have their needs taken care of. So they victimize themselves, and emotionally trigger themselves into a depressed state to get other people to come and nurture them because then they can convince themselves they have value, that they're worth being nurtured, they matter, they have social relevance and desirability.

If that's what you're "really" doing or looking for, the internet is a great place. Then those predators become enablers. They give a shallow little bit of the validation and comfort sought, but then they ask for something in return, or stop their efforts and move on, which again triggers the victimhood, justifying continuation of the behavior and negative feelings.

Or TLDR if you're looking for a solution, you have to rely on yourself.
Make the internal external through your efforts and give yourself something else to focus on.
If you're just looking some shallow validation where you don't have to change or put in any effort, but will ultimately facilitate lows justifying bad behavior to chase short term highs, then look for others, especially on the internet.