Ok, so I am 22 soon to be 23 I have a great job that I make very good money at, I have an amazing family and phenominal friends, A cute house that I bought with my sister and a car or two.. I am pretty, fun to be with, easy going, loving, not needy, girly but not prissy.. and I love to go to sporting events and have cold beer every now and then and I am really happy . BUT! I can not find one guy that is decent.. I dont know what the hell is going on or what is wrong with me .. can anyone offer any insight as to why these guys seem so great and then turn out to be a trainwreck of problems once I give my heart and try to get involved?

~~~Tammy~~~~

theres nothing wrong with you.

you'll find a decent one eventually give it time your still young yet.

we haven't met yet. that's why you can't find a decent one haha just kidding

you go for the wrong kind of guys i bet? you probably have a certain type of guy that you are attracted to. the kind that look good and very into themselves? there was a spot on one of the morning shows the other day about how "geek is the new sheik" and how girls are starting to go for guys less like what i described and more into somebody who will just treat them right. i may be way off base, i havent slept in a long time.

take ur time and go slow...u have a life time...he will be there...u just might be giving ur heart to fast or to the wrong one...surely I have a few regrets in my life time..if only i had a crystal balll then and now..

Take time and have fun...then wammo..never know whats around the corner...

That secure man will show up....

My best to u....

Happy Holidays to..

That's a tough one! Maybe they're looking for something other than a friend and great relationship. They should have been up front with you when you first began to talk.

Girl if I knew I sure as hell wouldn't be on here! I'm 23 almost 24, have a 2 bedroom house complete with fenced in yard and garage, a nice car, great career, degree in Business Admin, and all that great stuff....I find men with no job or car, or emotional baggage, or they are so bitter from their past they end up treating me like crap...if you just seem to stumble onto a couple NICE GENUINE guys send 1 my way! LOL

I had a conversation with a co-worker the other day. She said that when she was dating; she read a book call something like ... how to date like a guy??? It talks about dating '3' guys at the same time casually. There are a number of different reasons, but one of them is that women usually get intensely involved in relationships very soon and will over look faults or red flags. She said that she dated for 3 months casually and say the red flags in one guy and had no problem letting him go. She found her husband by this method. They dated for 4 years and have been married for just over 2 years. Good Luck!!!

The problem is that most men around this age are not stable yet. They dont know what they want. There are some of us out there just never nearby. lol

Yeah-I don't go for my age group...like 28-32 but still find the same problems

Even us woman who don't have a career, own a home,a bank account, have a nice car though..lol...still have a hard time in this area..

I have found ppl want independant..financially and emotionally, partners..yet when u have they are intimidated..when u don't have.....they don't want u period...

So for me I have wisdom, and am emotionally stable, and have a lot to offer...just not financially..still come up by myself...

I chose motherhood instead of a career, I spent all my money raising 2 great sons....it's just me now...

And for now thats ok......

I believe the balance of life comes to most at some point...maybe just in different ways....

I still have hope...but my faith stays with me...at the moment..

Timing...and better choices are the biggest keys we can have...

Best to all of u

I think I just found my problem...I have a 4 year old and a 1 year old son-most men RUN when they hear this LOL

we need a book hummmmm i dont know

I have found with the past guys I have dated they have all been with cheating girls and then their insecurities about that comes off onto me.. I have never cheated in my life although sometimes i wish i would have.. and for the person who said I have a certain type that is not true.. I dont always go for looks but as it turns out the best relationship and the love of my life that did have ended up dying serving our country.. maybe I am just looking too hard trying to find someone that makes me feel like he did or maybe Im just not ready to start dating again.. i dont know

Oh John..go color ur hair....lmao.....

It's Christmas...green? red? forget it..I like the blue...

the las girl did not cheat.she lied and said she was not maried and had no kids. well she might have .but that is the past and i move on.

Stlstylist....I think u just answered all ur own questions....

go have fun....

U r right..u may truely need more time to move forward from the loss of a special man....partner and soldier....

I have never goten over my 1st love...he is in iraq now....I have seen him in the past and I pray I see him in the future...

Thanks, I hope you get to see your first love.. I will pray for him and his safety and that you two will be able to see each other again one day..

look at this hair would you put this on your cat?

Been there before. Moral support is the best thing a soldier can have when over there.