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Topic: Single Mothers
Gregory1967 Joined Sat 09/21/19 Posts: 4	Sun 10/13/19 01:59 PM
I've been with single moms before and it can be stressful...Probs with X's $$$ support etc...Kids are a pain in the **ing * and really its hard to get quality time... Its hard to be touchy and or sexual when her kid or kids are home..They get jealous when u hug or share a kiss, it's hard to get laid without them wanting to come into the bedroom and be disruptive...When I've had her at my place they are on a timeclock. Sorry to say it is very hard to truly enjoy oneself without the phone ringing, some crisis, dinner for them etc etc...if they are late teens..no problem but 14 and under..forget it..Sorry if I hurt anyones feelings...

premierblue Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 361	Sun 10/13/19 02:53 PM Edited by premierblue on Sun 10/13/19 02:56 PM
I'm a single mother to a 5 yr old lovely little boy. And it's honestly BOYS like you, that made me give up on the dating thing. They view a child,; which is one of the biggest blessings you could ever have in my eyes, as "baggage". There is no greater thing then the love of a child. And I feel like it's even more so when that child is not yours and they love and accept you like you are their parent. Unfortunately I chose a guy who did not stick around. Did I think he was going to do that? Heck no. But he did. And it actually was for the better. Looking back, the relationship was toxic. Why would I make my child endure that? I wouldn't and won't. I have a full time career, my own house, my own car and I pay all my bills BY MYSELF. and on top of that, I'm raising a little MAN by myself. Yes, there are some moms that fall short of their duties, but you can not simple lump ALL single moms into a "bad mom" Category based off of a few. I know plenty of single momst hat get **** done and hold down the fort on there own; myself included. Maybe you're just threatened by the fact that we don't NEED a man? good luck to you sir. Very well said! I wish you luck and blessings bringing up your "little man". My older sis is a single mom, with 2 kids, for almost 21 years but in different circumstances - she was widowed after her husband's drunken crash up, suffering severe head injuries, being in a coma for 6 months before succumbing to his injuries. She never remarried, and has done very well for herself. All this in India, where most men's attitude towards women, like OP's, are stuck in the 19th century!!!

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9013	Sun 10/13/19 03:11 PM
I've been getting flack about my rejection of single mothers for anything long term (I'll likely get flack here too) from (you guessed it) SINGLE MOTHERS. It's not simple disapproval either, it's vicious and hostile, and if there weren't a child restraining their actions, I'm certain they'd get violent. ...but I'm still not wrong. Single Mothers, This is REALITY: 1: EVERY man sees you as "used goods" that comes with an extra burden that was the result of your poor judgement when you chose to breed with someone you had no intention of staying with. 2: When you make excuses (He was psycho and abusive, etc.) it only reinforces the notion that you have EXTREMELY poor judgement. I get that your lot in life sucks, but speaking as someone who's educated, literate, employed, healthy, and productive, I think this sets me above 98% of the males on here, and thus gives me the standing to say "you don't make the grade". It's my right to do so, and getting mad at me for your mistakes only serves to prove that point. I GET TO BE PICKY. You don't. (Begin outrage now) well ... I just peeked at your profile and I think there are several reasons you are encountering flack from single mothers . Preferences are exactly that ., fragile egos are something else

fred gahalla Joined Sun 10/13/19 Posts: 1	Mon 10/14/19 12:28 AM
Hey I’m new here and I will like like to meet someone who is interested in a solid relationship

delightfulillusion Joined Fri 06/24/16 Posts: 119333	Mon 10/14/19 02:12 AM
Hey I’m new here and I will like like to meet someone who is interested in a solid relationship

Seamus Joined Mon 07/15/19 Posts: 3365	Mon 10/14/19 02:47 AM
There have always been single parents, fathers as well as mothers. We forget how lucky we are to be living now. War, industrial accidents and disease have robbed many a mother and children of their husbands and fathers. Likewise, up until the 20th Century, childbirth was the most common cause of death for young women, again leaving a husband and usually other children on their own. Not everyone will choose to remarry and most of them work miracles in raising children, so nobody needs to listen to a hypocrite like the OP.

Viky Joined Thu 10/10/19 Posts: 6	Mon 10/14/19 11:09 AM
well said... but one question - can u choose someone who is younger then u and he is the ideal man for u, or who is the same age of ur children ? If no then why?

SaaD Joined Mon 10/14/19 Posts: 1	Mon 10/14/19 11:12 AM
Hi

manoj Joined Sun 10/13/19 Posts: 3	Mon 10/14/19 07:09 PM
i am agree with you

Sir Dino One Love ☝️💚 Joined Tue 04/02/19 Posts: 5312	Tue 10/15/19 01:10 AM
i am agree with you With whom?

Lucy white Joined Mon 10/14/19 Posts: 1	Tue 10/15/19 01:23 AM
Am also interested in u

Sir Dino One Love ☝️💚 Joined Tue 04/02/19 Posts: 5312	Tue 10/15/19 01:30 AM
Am also interested in u

Seamus Joined Mon 07/15/19 Posts: 3365	Tue 10/15/19 02:58 AM
well said... but one question - can u choose someone who is younger then u and he is the ideal man for u, or who is the same age of ur children ? If no then why? If you're asking me, then all I van say is; if your society disapproves of your relationship strongly enough, then you have very little chance of happiness.

Juks Joined Fri 08/30/19 Posts: 29	Fri 10/18/19 01:15 PM
I am here

Unknow Joined Mon 05/03/21 Posts: 9	Fri 07/07/23 11:38 PM
Nice one Sir... Well said ma'am..

Harshu Joined Fri 07/07/23 Posts: 1	Sat 07/08/23 12:20 AM
Am also interested in u yes i am interested