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Oh......I see.......In the words of the great Rosanne Rosanadanna.......NEVERMIND!
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about the tattoos, it appears a little selfish. i think that if you are aware of spending issues this is a real big problem for a potential relationship...of course, as a disclaimer, i also started the "I'm cheap" and "I'm weird" threads... Seriously...... "Selfish". It's a little early to be tagging him like that don't you think? If the relationship becomes more serious maybe he will too. I like the thought that there is growth and .... Dear>>>>>> Does he have your back???? That is one of the most important things in any relationship. For now it's been one month and you don't know the guy. Maybe he spent his money wisely on the last gal and she screwed him. Now he is just enjoying a little life without worry. Jeeeesh! |
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about the tattoos, it appears a little selfish. i think that if you are aware of spending issues this is a real big problem for a potential relationship...of course, as a disclaimer, i also started the "I'm cheap" and "I'm weird" threads... Seriously...... "Selfish". It's a little early to be tagging him like that don't you think? If the relationship becomes more serious maybe he will too. I like the thought that there is growth and .... Dear>>>>>> Does he have your back???? That is one of the most important things in any relationship. For now it's been one month and you don't know the guy. Maybe he spent his money wisely on the last gal and she screwed him. Now he is just enjoying a little life without worry. Jeeeesh! I never said he was selfish. I was looking at it being that he is 32, renting a room from his best friend's mom, and not saving for a place of his own with a bank account in the red. I have always claimed he is a nice guy and he still is. The only thing is we both are focusing on different things right now. |
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i certainly would communicate with him and start working on the problem before it gets out of control
if it is something that is bothering you money is at the top of things couple argue about it is important |
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It is important and that's why it didn't work out. We talked for about an hour and a half last night and pretty much came to the mutual decision. It still sucks, especially since apparently I've already been replaced by his ex girlfriend (even after he talked sh*t about her - guess it's my turn to be talked about).
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well regardless of what i say here, you will not take this advise, although i don't agree with the friend that said to drop him, also have to say that you really should look at the whole picture, if this is a pattern for him, and he's always in the red, its going to be you taking care of things for him and he will expect that from you and he will believe your not going anywhere. so i do believe that you are wasting your time if you are truly looking for something permanent
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HEY WENDY, heres the thing. THE more of us that you ask for advice[INCLUDING YOUR PERSON FRIENDS} the more confused you will become,it is you and him in this so the only one outside of the two of you that you shoul listen to is your GUTS!!!! always listen to your inner you that way you are not going off of someone elses plans, your grown now and if ou cant direct your self how can you direct your children when its time? remember your not the first one, and for sure wont be the last one to find yourself in a situation of these sorts but as long as you think it out and respect you own decision you will be fine, so good luck...signed FROM THE OUT SIDE LOOKING IN Finally, the voice of reason. Kudos for this post, man. |
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Sorry just read the first post and passed the rest ask yourself this does he live on his own? (not with mom lol) or on welfare?
you have only known him a month and you see flaws? if your looking for flaws thats all your going to find If you like the guy and he is good to you (money aside) what he has in his wallet shouldn't matter as long as he isn't asking you for it If your the type of gal that likes to wine and dine and travel and limo it instead of cab it then maybe you should be looking for someone in the same or above tax bracket Seems nowadays love does cost money |
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Edited by
wendynhouston
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Wed 12/19/07 07:33 AM
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Sorry just read the first post and passed the rest ask yourself this does he live on his own? (not with mom lol) or on welfare? you have only known him a month and you see flaws? if your looking for flaws thats all your going to find If you like the guy and he is good to you (money aside) what he has in his wallet shouldn't matter as long as he isn't asking you for it If your the type of gal that likes to wine and dine and travel and limo it instead of cab it then maybe you should be looking for someone in the same or above tax bracket Seems nowadays love does cost money He's not on welfare and he's not living with his parents, because they kicked him out. He's living with his best friend's mom. During our talk he always figured his parents would be there to help him out when the time came when he moved out, but now that they aren't talking that isn't the case. I'm not all about wining and dining. Give me a park/zoo or walk on the beach over anything fancy anyday. But don't tell me you can't pay $15 for a concert for my birthday cause you don't have the money and then the next instant go gamble with money you don't have. Anyway, it's neither here or there anymore, we talked and agreed we are looking/focusing on different things. He wants to spend money and have fun while not worrying about the future (own house, marriage, etc); while I'm looking eventually (hopefully) find someone to settle down with. |
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