What I mean is rather I have Mutual Matches or not. I was sending one girl a email on here and she respond up until like the four or fifth email then all of a sudden she stop talking to me, all we where talkin about is music and stuff we where both likes or dislikes etc at the moment to try and get to know one another.

But it seemed like I was doing more of the asking of questions etc.

Now here's the part I don't understand and that's when some one you emailed on here using JSH email system, then out of no where the other person stop talking.

I mean I'm about to give up here and just look for friends instead since I have found noting more thus far.

I mean I am a nice guy and all or so I think I am.. I just do not understand why woman on here stop responding like this or if this just isn't me it happening to etc.



I really didn't think there was anything wrong with trying to get to know some one by what they like etc, isn't that the whole point of becoming good friends and or more ?????.

yeah, on my profile it clearly states i'm just looking for friends....i dunno why i picked "women for friendship" when i don't care whether your a woman, man, or purple. but i got some mutual matches and i e-mailed a couple that sounded cool and one of them (female) actually e-mailed me back saying "eww....sorry but your not my type"......didn't know there was acually a "type" for friends.....some people on this site are real cold and shallow

Sometimes it might be simple shyness as to the reason why a person stops talking to another one. But, it's hard to say. And, it does seem a little strange if you were talking about common interests, which is cool, and they she stopped out of nowhere.

JoshH:

You're absolutely right. I've seen some really wicked people on here. Downright rude to people that are "older", "not their type", etc. They obviously weren't taught manners.

It happens all the time...just move on!! Sorry but it really isnt worht all this stress!! Good luck!!

Do you know for sure she's read your emails? *Check your "sent" mail to be sure* Sometimes I get accused of not writing back because I have a slightly less than retarded computer that makes me want to pull my hair out!

Cut yourself(ves) some slack.....there can be other things that come in to play besides you, your profile, you conversation(s).

if someone doesn't respond why would you care.if they dont want to be your friend then find someone who does.

Yeah and that's the thing I do not understand here. I don't personal care any more if I have more friends off this site or I get a relationship of some kind.

But I even emailed some one off my matches and they didn't respond so I figure okay maybe she is busy or something which is understandable and all. But for the other woman I was speaking to out of no where just to stop is really rude or so I think.

I respond to every body male or women doesn't matter who, I'll talk to whomever.

It is not just women that do it. And not only on this site. I am on another site also and have had the same type of thing happen. It seems to me that these people just don't have any manners or courtesy, especially since, in my experiences, they are the initiators. Meaning that they contacted me first. I have decided to not take it personally, if they are that rude online then hmmmmm what are they like in person? and do I really want them as a friend or more?

Don't pet the sweaty things dude , move on.

I don't care if they don't want to be my friend or not, but to stop talking out of no where is rude or so I think it is.

And I am not sweat this at all. I was simply asking a question dcrdnk.

Same thing happened to me...I have a lot of mutual matches but no one responds back or they just stop after 3 or 4 emails...don't get it either

sorry bro' , it was just a play on words.

thought ya were down

Nope I wasn't down or feelin down etc. Just wondering was all.

GEEEEZZZZZZZZ TOUGH ROOM

Your are right about wondering why? Some things cannot be answered but by that person. It would be nice to get a, see you later.

I had met someone online once, we spent 3 months talking and we even started talking about meeting and he just dissapeared. Did not answer email, IMs or his phone, I believed he died.....sounds strange but, I guess I will never know.

Wow that truely sucks.

I guess we are all living in a cold world today, who would have thought.

MM is a joke. I tried it out when it first started and out of sheer bordom I flipped through it again a few times, but even if they turn up a match, they dont communicate back or are just plain rude.

HELL! They chose me too. WTF? I mean didn't they take the time to read the profile? NO! They just click on the pick for kicks or visual attraction and worry about the rest later. Stupid way of doing things.

I say the feature should be an optional one and I for one am sick of being put on display when I even tried stating that I didn't want to participate as the first thing they see when they see my pic! They click anyway. Idiots!

If this were optional, then we wouldn't get all the annoying emails saying "someone wants to meet you on JSH" UGH!

I could care less and if they like my pic so much they can bypass all that and just fricking email me AFTER they read my profile!

I don't like being on display, and I don't like having to dredge through all the pics to guess who the hell likes me and make a fool of myself to the ones that don't.

It's like a game show or something! It stinks and I want no more part of it.

It is easier to be rude to others behind a monitor. I personally
believe that people on dating sites tend to carry emotional baggage from their last relationship, they forget that the person they are emailing back and forth also has either been hurt or
betrayed in their past as well. Or worse yet, the ones that caused
their relationship to die can be on here as well. If someone stops talking to you, consider it a blessing, would you want to be in
a relationship with someone who tires easily of those in their
life?

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL !!!

Yeah I wonder sometimes too. Manners are one of many good reasons that someone may not continue to chat with another person. It's all in the WAY things are said. All this "Oh, s/he said that, but really means this" just makes manners in our words that much harder.
I know this may sound like I'm one of those on the other side, but don't we all end up there one point in our lives, if not at least once?:
I have been emailing a good person on this sight. He initiated the thread. I replied, and we continued to the point of IMing. He was so concerned about himself, and he was asking all these odd (to say the least) questions. I pointed it out to him, and he said he'll try and stop it. In the very next IM session, he did his usual, so I just stopped talking to him.
I know it was not good manners from me, but what could I do, he refused to listen to me at all. So, even though I have been on the other side, this one time, I am still curious myself.

Hope this helps YOUR CURIOSITY.