why is better to wait long than to marry wrong ?

So we don't have topics about love being a pain.

Why do you suppose IHAB?

in my own view i see things not the way it is

As do I... Hold on to that vision, it is what will help shape the world to come.

thank you river spirit for motivating me
and also for the gift
fingers crossed

As someone forced into that situation... I guess this other half of myself wanted to clear up a few things explore the world a lil bit have the same type of romances I myself as any other individual experienced and we kept looking at this moon... that sharing the same sky we were both under that darn moon each and every night.... it's a really small world when you think about it. All of us intertwined in the history of human beings and in finding the right one we're going to crack open a few eggs to make the perfect meal the thing that satisfies us... This other half of me for example different and yet the very same noble hearted with eyes of kindness and looks like a fighter with a kind heart. But lord have mercy as with myself I do not want to make her angry of I know the own way to escape a storm is to hide in the bathroom till she blows under :o...

It's not.
It's the before and after.

Kind of like asking why a good fitting shoe is a pain.
It's the shopping, and the cheap knockoffs and the sales people selling inferior products that don't live up to what was promised, and getting a rock in it, and motivating yourself to exercise and putting the shoes to use, and shoes flying off your foot and spontaneously combusting on someones roof and they suing you for everything you've got.
That's the pain.


Might as well ask "why shop for a shoe that fits rather than just wrap your foot in any random thing you find or just grab the first pair of shoes you see."


If what you're "really" asking is "why isn't it easy and immediate and perpetually guaranteed to just find someone that will be and offer everything I want/need, and accept, validate, and be content with everything I have to offer," then that goes into things like biology, individualism, and culture.

i see