Interesting. Are you saying that there are no men that value family and children that aren't struggling financially?

I think he is saying that to catch this guy, you sure better be bringing something to the table. Since you aren't even willing to post a pic, what would you be bringing to the table?

Wow...you dont see the point do you. The TYPE of guy your looking for..(ok, pay attention this time and try to comprehend what im saying) The TYPE of guy you are looking for, would tell you to go to hell if you didnt sign a pre-nup.

But hey, i hope you find him anyway, and make sure to save plenty of money for counsiling for your kids, cause they will be so screwed up.

I've stated my requirements for a man I'd consider marriage. I don't understand the negativity about wanting a nice family life with a man that can provide these things.

How is it a bad thing that a man be able to house his family and take them to the shore?

Maybe there's a misunderstanding of the meaning of luxury. It is the absence of poverty.

Prenups and presumptions that Gustava is a gold digger??

You are clueless, honey.

The world is not all sweet and well mannered.

You said yourself that YOUR man can HIT other women.

You are not making sense.

Not in the slightest.

What you are doing is back-pedalling your shallowness and fear of your own worth, capability and dignity.


You are covering your a$$ for having mis-stated what boldness is when you crack the ice with such ridiculous assumptions that make you look magnanimous in your own eyes.... quite to your own chagrin.

Who's really being presumptuous???

I know that you are.

But, go ahead and backpedal your way out of this trap.

You need to re-evaluate your own content and character before you make judgements upon the experienced and ethical.
Not to mention the dubious nature of your brand of morality.


I'd spank you if I thought you wouldn't like it.

HARD!!!!

How do you know this? Is this how you feel? Are all men like you?

Nope, I stand by what I posted.

because you dont want a man to love. you want a man to provide you with your lifestyle. you want a man to GIVE you a house, to GIVE you luxury, to GIVE you kids, and then let him go off and sleep around with other people.

If you truly wanted to make a family. you wouldnt be asking for the things you were. and ESPECIALY not the way you were asking for them. You have NO right to bring children into this world based off a "marriage" based soley around how much f*cking money the guy makes.

You need a LOVEING NURTURING family, that will be together through the good times and the bad. Teach the children the value of a dollar, not the value of daddy's dollar.

A man that can afford your desires such as chartering jets..is just a little different than "absence of poverty." Chartering a jet for one weekend costs more than the average American makes in a year. You need to come down to reality, because you clearly have no sense of the value of currency.

I never got into the values I will teach in my home. That wasn't the subject of the post, but the people here sure are eager to reveal a whole lot more I'm stating, yes, the physical requirements.

I think the comment was something about chartering a yacht, but that really doesn't matter. I value family and home

It was "don't need his and her private jets or to own a yacht when you can charter"

The word charter in the context you presented it would be inclusive of both jets an yachts.

But anyways, what do you think would be a respectable annual salary for this man of yours?

think you guys. lay off for a second! there's nothing wrong with her wanting security and some kind of comfort. she never said that she didn't want a loving relationship. she only said that she might consider a more liberal sex life than most are comfortable with. well - some people are like that. i think it can even work for some people. so why attack her on her beliefs?

after all the 3-way threads over in Sex & Dating

just say "it's not for me". i give her credit for honesty.

It's the phrasing of this initial thread that's offputting to people. The fact that you don't even care if he sleeps around as long as he's paying for the house and the "basic" luxuries whatever the hell that oxymoron means. What you seem to be looking for is a bank that'll screw you and perhaps others, might I suggest citibank

I'd rather have a girl be faithful than have money, money I can earn on my own. I'd rather the girl I marry have a job and be able to support herself. That way I don't feel like I need to be with her because she can't take care of herself and she won't feel like she needs to be with me for financial security. We'll be with each other cause we want to be with one another.

I came from a well off traditional family, my dad was a doctor. Now what happens if the bread winner dies at 55 yrs old? The other one doesn't have any job experience and can't get a decent job because taking care of your kids for 18 years doesn't exactly qualify you in the eyes of employers for a whole hell of a lot.

And so is cheating.....but as long as he give you money that's ok? You're weird

What a bunch of immature crap

Savagirl...... any woman who is willing to sign a prenup is simply stating she doesn't expect to take assets from a guy if it doesn't work out. She doesn't need them. Personally, it wouldn't bother me to sign one, as I can and do provide for myself. If I marry someone, how much money they have is the last thing I care about.
How much character, loyalty and integrity he has DOES count.

What if he has short ears and fleas???

Cute picture Sumthing! Kinda looks like my new pet....