Be honest and consistent in answering question.
#honesty

Welcome!
And good luck with THAT

... it might be a long journey...i guess

I'm always honest but they have all been scams with a handful not being seriously interested in texting (why are they even on here), and I get contacted a lot here lately.

And lets adds up those who didn't put picture on there profile, how can I trust them, they keep on texting, and they got nothing from me ... no picture no reply is my policy here...it justisfies nothing but suspicious.

Be mindfull about personal info. Kinda chit chat with them like you do with strangers.

I actually didn't believe that easy if u say i am like this like that...yet i know how to handle it right...i hope scammers do have thier own world to cheat each other...

I am always suspicious of profiles without pictures or only have one photo uploaded twice

i feel you!

Hi

I've always enjoyed the feeling of being interrogated,
by a complete stranger, in the first few email exchanges.

...meet them offline and spend time doing things together.


And if they don't believe I'm being honest?
How do they prove to their own satisfaction the degree of my honesty?
Or do you trust information from random strangers more than the information you obtain through your own efforts?

How exactly and specifically "honest" can I be that guarantees overcoming anyone's bias towards not immediately distrusting random internet strangers with the ulterior motive of dating and relationships rather than sitting online and chatting "honestly" to the other persons satisfaction?

Or what happens when I'm being honest, but they don't have the experience or context to understand what that honesty really means?

"Honesty" does not inherently equate to understanding, relevancy, commonality, or acceptance.


The only way to "get to know" someone is to meet them offline...and develop a relationship with them. Developing a relationship is just another way of saying "learning to communicate."

Online, all you do is build up a false sense of security and knowledge.


How can you trust anyone?
How can you trust the pictures someone posts are actually theirs, or in any way recent or accurate?



IME with threads like "you need to be honest!" and "get to know me first!" and "know how to have a conversation!" it almost always translate to:
"It's all about me! I'm here to shop for what I want! You need to conform yourself to my customer service needs, and those that don't I am justified in judging negatively, because it's all about me! My comfort, my needs, and everyone needs to conform to that! Really, I don't want to think, I don't want to try, I just want to choose, be entertained by the process, and then make the choice that's best for me, only me, all based on a false sense of expectations and entitlements I've deluded myself into believing I can have! I know what I want, (and it is in no way related to learning to communicate with you, only how well you know how to communicate your ability to give me what I want) and I just want to test you to make sure you can give me what I want, and if you make it to the point where I choose you, then you are automatically assuming future responsibility for perpetually fulfilling it!"



People can't handle the truth.
That's why they go online to find dates rather than approach random strangers they might have to take a risk.

^^^ Signed ^^^

Being too open makes us vulnerable.