Well I have one major flaw when trying to establish a new relationship with somebody. So, I have a problem detecting if somebody is flirting with me or just being friendly. People have told me that I am completely oblivious to the fact of girls flirting with me.

I blame this on the fact that I have a very joking nature and joke around with just about anybody.

Maybe you guys can help me differentiate between the two, what at the signs that I have to look for?

we always through ideas of possible signs. The best and easiest way to find out is to be up front with them. If your not able to do so i would like you to try and work on becomming better at this. There is alot of wondering in relationships when cutting to the point saves alot of time and stress i believe

im the same way a woman has got to kick me in the head with a steel toe boot sometimes to give me the hint

i agree with zooguy


just ask then it dont go on and feelings get hurt

wow ..I had this girl following me around and flirting with me for a month and I didnt notice... good luck to ya

If men would take their head outta their azzzzzzzzz for once they may be able to see our clues!!!

I try really hard it is just that flirting and joking are so close together that I just confuse them.

It is hard to tell sometimes, for men and women alike. If you're interested, ask them out, you'll know for sure then

I got the same problem.

Idk, I don't flirt with men, good luck though.

Psh that doesn't even matter.
If you radiate with a sexual energy in every bit of communication you have with her, it will ALWAYS be flirting. For good ol' friendliness, turn off your charm.
In nature, men are the initiators, the one who takes the first moves, the ones who take the risks, and therefore are the ones who ultimately lead the direction of the courtship (that being said, women play a huge role in this...50% lol).
My point is that it is YOUR CHOICE whether or not you two are flirting or just being friendly. Usually it starts with friendly then builds into flirting.

When they talk about getting nakid is a sign!

Hmmm....never had a girl talk about that yet, I'll try to initiate that conversation next time.

generally if your joking around with someone and they put thier hand on yours or on your shoulder, leg, etc. like an "oh thats so funny" but wait to see if that hand lingures for the slightest moment, and that is a pretty good indicator.

don't be afraid of rejection...ask her out....the worst thing she can say in no....be confident and never doubt yourself....confidence shines....don't be cocky

UNLESS you can be totally FUNNY at the same time.

Alright man this is a really easy problem to resolve!

There is no need to be upfront and ask her or anything like that! Just watch for a few signs.

If she does these thing she is interested, even it is just a little bit:
hits you
touches you
gives you a nickname
gives you a hard time in a light hearted manner

These are a few as I am having trouble think of more right now, but there are many!

Ways to test her interest:
Grab her hand and tell her to follow just to walk somewhere nearby
squeeze her hand if she squeezes back she is into you
grab her arm and put it through yours and walk somewhere nearby by arm in arm is she goes she may like you
tell her to give you a kiss on the cheek while lightly tapping you cheek, if she kisses you are in, ask for the lips next if you think you are at that point!

Here is a tip for when you are in that awkward position close enough to kiss but not sure if you should try!

I use this all of the time!

If you think she may want to kiss you and you are sure that the time is right, it probably is! But if you fear being shut down , ask her, "Do you want to kiss me?"

Some may think this is to forward or that you are going down hard if she doesn't want to, but that is not the case!

She will say one of four things! Here are those responses and the actions that should follow:

"Yes" - Kiss her
"Maybe/I don't know" - Say "lets find out" then kiss her
"No" - Say "It jsut look like you had something on your mind, or "Then stop looking at me that way", say the second in a joking manner!
"Not right now" - This usually happens when she is not quite ready or doesn't want to be seen by others for what ever reason. Say "I understand" then wait for a better time when you are alone and you feel it is right!

I know a bunch of that was off track but I think it will help as well.

I know it is too often said to be yourself around women, but it is important to do this and to be happy enjoying yourself and your friends and not worry about the outcome of any situation as there are many fish in the sea!

dammit man i already said all this stuff in other threads


found one...
http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/54057?page=2