hello. I am a closet crossdresser. I've worn panties my whole life, and always dress in sexy lingerie at home. I'm almost 60 now . kinda heavy and hairy. Nobody wants an old hairy guy in a pink lace nightie. lol. Lookin for someone that can get past all that and let me be myself.

Well, I'll say this much. You look remarkably like Sharon Stone.

I’m a transitioned trans woman in her early 20s, out and proud since 2015. Started hormone therapy in January 2016, am having sex reassignment surgery ( vaginoplasty ) next year.
I’m heterosexual so kind of a rarity under trans women where most are attracted to women and transition at later ages. I’m an early onset trans woman. Knew since early childhood, suffered extreme gender dysphoria till 18 y.o, when I decided to transition.

Since you are a crossdresser and different from a trans person, I cannot give you a lot of advice.
However, if you want to find someone who accepts you for presenting as a woman from time to time, I would advise you to make sure you look as good as you can when dressed as a woman.
Hygiene and efforts are more important than looks.

Make sure you shave all your body and facial hair off and buy a hair-laser-at-home device. Silk’n glide is a very good device and not too expensive ( 200$ ) from Philips.

Being hairless is one of the most important things, if not the most important.

Use warm water to open the pores and enough shaving foam, when shaving. Shave two times one after another, for a close shave.
After shaving, make sure you exfoliate and moisturize.

Another important thing is contouring and highlighting.
You can look up YouTube videos. Tutorials enough.
Arabia Felix is a drag queen who has great tutorials on contour and highlight.
Contour and highlight is a great make-up trick to feminize the face and highlight the eyes and cheekbones.

Another thing that could help you be taken more seriously as a woman and quite important is voice training.
You can look up tutorials to train your voice to sound more feminine.

To hide the Adams apple you could wear a necklace and a scarf.

Paint your nails and maintain them hygienically. That’s important.

Make sure you learn how to jiggle with your hips when walking. Walking graciously is important. Don’t walk with the legs wide apart.

Learn to dress like a woman of your age would, not as a teenage girl.
Don’t dress vulgar, dress classy.

Over the knee boots look cheap on older women, go for classy pumps instead.

A small enveloppe shaped handbag is very classy.

If you have a redecing hairline, try to look for a high quality wig, a human hair one prferably but a good synthetic will do as well.

Try to smile often, a smile is very feminine. Show emotions. Don’t have that “ resting ***** face “ that is so typically male.

Someone out there will accept you for you.
Put in the time and efforts.

Many guys are willing to have a short adventure with a crossdresser. If he is bi maybe even a relationship.

Since you are not a woman, straight guys and lesbian women are out of the question.
Bi guys and bi women and maybe some accepting straight women, are a possibility.

As a straight woman, I would personally not date a crossdresser, but I know women who would.

Elissa.