I used to love dating! It was easy before dating apps/sites and social media. Now I hate it! Men are unfocused, distracted and confused. Their hunting skills seems to have weakened or disappeared all together. I miss the old ways of dating. When a man approached you in person and introduced himself. At least then you knew what your were getting. Now we have to jump through hoops just to see what someone really looks like and find out weeks later if there's even any chemistry. Dating now a days is like going to a mystery movie. The plot thickens as it progresses and you keep your fingers crossed that you don't hurt by what's unveiled.
Are there any good looking men out there that are truly ready for a relationship?

There’s any easy answer, deactivate and go hang in bars or wherever.

Nice day to you Princess

Well because third wave feminism has weaken men period, the average man today is weak and yes some of them are confused because back in the day a man pursued a woman he was interested in.

Today if that man pursues the woman he is interested in and she is 3rd wave feminist he could be charged for harassment.

A man cant even hold the door open for woman anymore without being harassed.

Try giving a woman who is a third wave feminist a compliment and Im talking a legitimate genuine compliment the cops will be called, the poor bastard will be spending money on legal bills for defending himself.

Yes some guys are pigs and douche bag but for the everyday average guy dating forward is going to be a challenge.

Welcome to the new world

Men now days don't have to make much of an effort. I've heard my male friends talk about going online and finding women who will come to their house on a first date. You hear women saying there is nothing wrong with 1st date sex. Why would men chase a woman when the can get what they want so easily.

Thanks for your response.
I like that and have done it. The funny thing is, men still don't approach you as they have their faces buried in their mobile devices. I end up observing them as their opportunities and life passes by.
It's so frustrating but more to the point....sad!

Let me correct that for you SOME Men now days don't have to make much of an effort
these men of the I Pod cucumber generation are too stupid to know any better.

You hear women saying there is nothing wrong with 1st date sex.
And I have to shake my head when they also complain that no good men out there exists because they believe that having sex on the first date is a good thing and then calls us who dont believe in having sex on the first day "rigid with archaic views" B.S. is what I say.

I would never consider a woman for a long term relationship if she is willing to have sex on the first date.

What is right for them isn't right for me and I dont look down on them , to each their own, I wont force my values on you and you dont force your values on me.

Aint that the truth Newsworthy

Its has become the new norm, political identity and its seeps down to even dating.

Dating has changed

back in the 20th century when men looked like men and women looked like women, Micheal Jackson was black, Boy George was weird.

today some Men look like women, some women look like men
there are so many terms, I cant keep up, I dont what a CIS person means

Its has become so complex today I dont know what the future holds and it doesnt look promising.

Thanks for your response!
I posted this because I don't think I'm alone in this challenge. It's always good to hear of other people's perspectives. I have heard yours before from men. I always say. Know your audience. Every generation has a different way and comfort level of communication. If you approach a Baby Boomer or Generation X'er. They'll most likely appreciate the interaction and view it as a compliment as long as the approach is respectful. If you approach a Millennial, it's very likely that they will view it as harassment. As Millennials aren't overly comfortable with face to face communication. They grew up in a world of chatting through computers and mobile devices.

Human survival has always been based on instincts, observation, communication and reaction based on what you've observed. We need to go back to the basics in order to properly connect with one another!

Is it really this hard to find a date. Friend

Again I thank you for your response.

(Men now days don't have to make much of an effort. I've heard my male friends talk about going online and finding women who will come to their house on a first date. You hear women saying there is nothing wrong with 1st date sex. Why would men chase a woman when the can get what they want so easily).

You are absolutely right. There are some women to blame in this issue. As long there are women willing to sleep with a guy on the first date this issue will continue. Again let's try to identify these groups of women. Let me first prefix this by saying, this is a generalization. I don't believe that this applies to every single one in these groups. Again if you break it down by generation you will see vast differences. A female Baby Boomer's views on sex is completely different than that of a Millenial's. Women that grew up in the era of the Baby Boomers hardly believed in having sex for pleasure. It was more a function that they performed for their husbands or to procreate. They didn't derive pleasure from it. Mainly because they weren't really in touch with their own sexuality. As time progressed the woman of the Gen X era became more in touch with their sexuality and took more control of it. They learned how to pleasure themselves without shame and became more vocal with their partners with what they wanted sexually. Women made great strides sexually but perhaps things have gone too far. We're now a part of the Millennial generation. Females in this group hardly believe in love and the value of sex. Can you really blame them? They've been inundated with sex in the movies, television, music, magazines and the general public's relaxed view of it. They don't believe in it because they grew up in a time where it wasn't valued.

It's never been a better time to be a man if these are his values. Never has it been so easily accessible and effortless. Why would a man pursue a woman, court her, spend time and money on her with no confirmation that he will be successful in his quest to attain her in that way. When now he can simply swipe, make no effort except to invite her over or go to her place and get what he wants right away.

More and more it is becoming increasing difficult to find a man that is willing to walk away from what is being handed to them on a platter. As Chris Rock said a man can't run away fast enough! And though I can't expect a man to walk away all the time. It would be nice to find a man of character who desires a woman who would like to wait, get to know each other and decide as mature adults that, that is the direction you would both like to go in.

Sadly ,this is true!!!

Exactly!!!
And yet,Steve Harvey has tried taming such a woman,with his books on outcome of such and talks,
but alas!!