Topic: self-love
Poeticnelly's photo
Sun 04/01/18 01:59 PM
to love, you must love yourself first.

NotPay4Play's photo
Sun 04/01/18 02:06 PM
what guess that mwans i don't love myself. Hum explains a lot. rofl

Poeticnelly's photo
Sun 04/01/18 02:07 PM
what guess that mwans i don't love myself. Hum explains a lot. rofl

try loving yourself first and then you'll love right and people will love you right

MK2's photo
Sun 04/01/18 02:09 PM
I love myself but no one cares think

Poeticnelly's photo
Sun 04/01/18 02:23 PM
I love myself but no one cares think

if you love yourself then you wouldn't really care if other people care... you're enough. the right person will come your way, don't worry

MK2's photo
Sun 04/01/18 02:30 PM

I love myself but no one cares think

if you love yourself then you wouldn't really care if other people care... you're enough. the right person will come your way, don't worry


ok :smile:
welcome to mingle, you are cool
passed rofl

no photo
Sun 04/01/18 03:34 PM
to love, you must love yourself first.

I would disagree.
To me this saying always seemed to be like saying "to be happy with your job you need to be happy with your life."

Sometimes relationships can help people "love" themselves whereas they might not, or might not think or care about it much in general.
Sometimes it's easier to figure out how we see ourselves when we can figure out how people see us, and why. Sometimes the perspective of others helps cut through the BS we tell ourselves.

Personally, I would say something more like "to be in a healthy relationship, you can't hate yourself."
Because when people hate themselves they generally exhibit self destructive behaviors, which tends to include sabotaging relationships.

I don't think you have to love yourself to be capable of loving someone else, I just don't think you can hate yourself and ever expect to be in a healthy relationship.

try loving yourself first

How exactly, as detailed as possible, do you do that, learn to do that, or constantly reassure yourself that you do, as well as figure out you aren't just telling yourself what you want to hear?


Poeticnelly's photo
Sun 04/01/18 11:33 PM
to love, you must love yourself first.

I would disagree.
To me this saying always seemed to be like saying "to be happy with your job you need to be happy with your life."

Sometimes relationships can help people "love" themselves whereas they might not, or might not think or care about it much in general.
Sometimes it's easier to figure out how we see ourselves when we can figure out how people see us, and why. Sometimes the perspective of others helps cut through the BS we tell ourselves.

Personally, I would say something more like "to be in a healthy relationship, you can't hate yourself."
Because when people hate themselves they generally exhibit self destructive behaviors, which tends to include sabotaging relationships.

I don't think you have to love yourself to be capable of loving someone else, I just don't think you can hate yourself and ever expect to be in a healthy relationship.

try loving yourself first

How exactly, as detailed as possible, do you do that, learn to do that, or constantly reassure yourself that you do, as well as figure out you aren't just telling yourself what you want to hear?


i was really bad at it at first. I'd tell myself only what I want to hear but I have been reading books that create self awareness, listen to podcasts... I learnt self honesty is part of self love and self growth. have candind convos with yourself, summon yourself when your wrong, have a little fun while at it

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 04/02/18 05:13 AM
I love myself and others! Even thou I don't agree with them always. laugh

Beachfarmer's photo
Mon 04/02/18 06:07 AM
drool Every day and twice in the morning.

Goofball73's photo
Tue 04/03/18 07:08 PM

to love, you must love yourself first.


And always wash behind your ears too.

KatDee05's photo
Wed 04/04/18 02:41 PM

to love, you must love yourself first.
one guy told me he loves himself five times a day :joy:

Goofball73's photo
Wed 04/04/18 07:50 PM


to love, you must love yourself first.
one guy told me he loves himself five times a day :joy:


If it was six times a day, then he might need to seek medical attention. laugh

stephenbadger's photo
Tue 04/10/18 07:16 PM
l know someone who loves himself ...he's an annoying prick !! rant

no photo
Tue 04/10/18 07:22 PM

I love myself but no one cares think

if you love yourself then you wouldn't really care if other people care... you're enough. the right person will come your way, don't worry
:nerd:

no photo
Tue 04/10/18 07:23 PM

l know someone who loves himself ...he's an annoying prick !! rant

I wonder who that is:thinking:

Beachfarmer's photo
Tue 04/10/18 07:38 PM
bigsmile Just finished some self love...now ironically smoking a cigarette and stumbling across this thread.

JulieNorCal's photo
Tue 04/10/18 08:27 PM
Thanks for the reminder. I just feel like we are social beings, and that in a way we need love to love ourselves. Without it anyways, it is much harder to love oneself. I think it is easiest to give love to each other, and we aren't meant to try and give it to ourselves so much, I think.