I wouldn't reconcile with someone who has cheated on me..however I wouldn't harbor resentment either...I would move on and close that chapter in my life should that ever happen to me...I wouldn't hate him for it...I figure it would be his loss..and he would be the one with the issues, not me...

No....
cheating is a character flaw! To take them back would only be enabling and also a sign I too am emotionally unhealthy.
Cheating is a sign of many things not simply cheating..a general disrespect for the feelings of another...a lack of honesty and a lack of personal responsibility. All of which are probably not traits I would wish to have so closely connected to my life.

But I'd wish them well!!!!!

Well said Gams..

Very true to speak of Moody, I agree.

Some people can change,,,,but NOT with the same one they HURT...

WE should ALL learn through are good and bad experiences in life, and TRY,,to be BETTER...

i have, but will never do it again! i know my self worth, and i am worth more than having a man cheat on me!!!

i dont care if they do change i wont give them another chance. cheat on me once and thats the only chance you had

NO!!

This has happened to me three times and everytime it was a no except the last one. She was my wife and I had kids with her I tried to work things out but she cheated on me again and I said no more. Now I have the kids and her cheating ass has been asking me back ever since I divorced her. LOL

Having been a cheater at one time, I feel differently about this issue than most people. I believe everyone deserves a second chance. You never know, a person could really change. I, for one, would never cheat on anyone ever again.

I would love to believe that I could forgive the one I love if they did that to me. I would want to believe they could change. I really would. But deep down, I would always be skeptical of them, wondering when they tell me they are working late that that is, in fact, true. But I can't live like that. I just can't. It would put a ton of stress on me and on her.

Swweet, I do agree with one thing you said. I do believe a person can change and that they can learn from there mistakes. But, me personally, I just would have a hard time forgiving on this particular issue.

I think that's what forgiveness is all about, Goofball. It's not supposed to be easy.

But I've never been cheated on...I'd like to think that I would be a forgiving person in that situation. I know I would at least give them a second chance.

Okay. Let me rephrase. I would forgive her for cheating on me. I know I can do it. But could I live with her? Sleep in the same bed with her? Be able to keep my sanity while she was still with me? I really just do not know. Right now I feel that I couldn't.

Yeah, it's not forgiveness you'd have a problem with, it's forgetting. And I suppose it's only human.

I just think the pain of that would really scar me. Maybe it is because once I am in a relationship I give all I have. And to trust someone unconditionally and then have them cheat on you...that would just cut me so damn deep.

Yeah, I bet it can really be scarring and hurtful--never happened to me. But I do sympathize, knowing what it did to my past relationship.

Goodnight, Goofball

omg... hell no

it funny you ask that i mean whos cheatn who? if shes cheating on me than she doing me a favor cause ill find out and then i would know i dont need to be with a woman like that and if im a good person than she cheated herself

HELL NO!!