Is it really possible to find a gentleman my age to start over?

that all depends on the 2 people

Best wishes on your hunt : )

I never say never, however, there are a few things that come into play as barriers:

1. As men and women age (especially after a divorce) we trust the opposite sex less and less. Those who are young take their chances and find relationships much easier. We, who are older, play it safe by staying at home alone and just window shop on dating sites.

2. Our expectations seem to be written in stone.

3. We (men and women) tend to loose our confidence in our own appearance as we age so we hesitate to reach out to or respond to someone for fear of rejection.

After a recovery time after the divorce I registered on this dating site. There were a number of women who seemed interesting (photo's and profiles). I'd write one and give five to seven days for a response. It soon dawned on me that women (my age and geographical area) tend not to respond to messages. Having been here for a number of years I've read that most men on Mingle2 run into this same situation. So I've stopped looking and sending messages. I'm here for the forums.

I agree with most of what you have said. Still, in all, there has to be someone somewhere who feels the same way I do, common interests, no games, yadda yadda yadda. Just kidding myself. Good luck to you all!