Conscious self loathers:

I'd say there are two types, the conscious and the unconscious but their characteristics are roughly the same. The conscious self loather openly and 'negatively' critises themselves and dislikes them selves and others.

Unconscious self loathers:

The unconscious self loather is the one that interests me, because he is not aware of his self loathing. You could say he is not awake to it, he is not self realised of it's existence, he is asleep. This one is the most dangerous because self loathing is a form of self destructiveness and self sabotage. The one who isn't aware of his self loathing he is like a sleeper cell, a ticking time bomb.

He may be in a good position, or a place of standing unaware that his unconscious self loathing is a self destructive device set to go off at some appointed time in the future. An observer of such an individual would be thinking, “but he has a good job, he's got a good wife, family children, he's doing so well, why is he self imploding and destroying it all? He was so successful, so honorable, so upstanding, why is he now blowing himself up and everybody around him?

Unseen characteristics:

The characteritistics of self loathing are unseen for the most part, but partly felt by the self loather, and manifests through their thinking, self criticism and actions. For the religiously inclined, the unseen aspect of self loathing is called the 'demon' it is an unseen but negative and destructive part of a persons personality or character.

I think self loathing can be passed from generation to generation in the form of the inherited demon of self loathing.

Relationships:

I was once told I was self loathing for wanting to be in a relationship with a woman of another race besides my own. Whilst the individual who pointed this out was partly correct, and I understand where he was coming from, in terms of one having self loathing for ones race. One could easily be a self loather in a relationship with a woman of the same colour, it's much easier to hide behind sameness and to feel safe, and not deal with the seriousness of self loathing as an issue.

The loather loathes himself. It will always be an unbalanced relation for any woman regardless of her colour in a relationship with one who loathers themselves. Wether the partner of the self loather was black or white, the self loather loathes themselves, self loathing is about the self loather, its self'ish' in nature. They are often self obsorbed in their own self loathing.

The loather hates themselves, being in such a union with such a person would enivitably feel imbalanced, and even if the self loather is loved, they will invitably rebel at some point at the deception of being in a relationship that is not totally reflective of the way they really and truly feel about themselves. The loather has to come completely to terms with their own self loathing before entering into a more balanced and healthy relationship.

Personally:

Much of what was written has been attempts to come to grips with aspects of my own self loathing, I'm hoping writing also helps myself and others come to grips with aspects of this hidden aspect of ourselves.

The opinions written here are only the opinions of the writer, if such issues affects you please seek qualified and profession help.

What about the subconscious?

You could be right, I don't really know much about the subconscious mind, perhaps it's something you could investigate. Anything that helps those of us who want to self improve.