My first attempt to go with her at a long drive and try to complete her all wishes , complete her dreams and when she is happy and enjoy these moments which dreamed by her then i will purpose her for become my life partner for whole life ..

If a woman is dating for a longterm relationship, wouldnt she need to choose someone with whom they can mutually make each others dream come through? If a woman adores travelling for example , is it materialistic of her to look for a mate who is financially capable of covering his end of the trips that she hopes they will take together? ? If she dreams to live independently of in law conflict , is it materialistic for her to seek a partner who can at least pay his half of the rent towards the home they move into?

Im wondering if compatability isnt being labelled as materialism?

hello

Options base upon the time establish.

To a hotel.
Flowers on hand. Afternoon sweets, tea or coffee.

Sunset at the beach, drinks at hand, dinner after. A table set up for two on the sand, no shoes and adding time to dance.

Sunrise also at the beach, resting on a bungalow, a bit if sun rays, watching the sun raise on the horizon. Follow by breakfast and water sports, example of jet bike.

Or a simple dinner on a light house.

Not intended to impress, just to feel.

i am sure we all see what we WANT to see hello peggy

i can go with that im sure she felt like a very desirable woman with that kind of treatment cheeriosoo. i can just imagine how she felt she must’ve impressed you first thou before you had the desire to impress her

sorry not to impress but the desire to feel im feeling im blabbing lol

Her house, her car at night, by her rules

Her rules I understand but her car ?

his got repossessed ss

For a while there i thought you wrote he was possessed lol.

I had to think about this for a little bit. There is nothing wrong with having dreams. But for me, it always leads back to two things. If you choose a person based on anything besides who they are and what they are, then you might be materialistic.

Yes, the things you speak of are nice and good things. But, in my mind, compatibility should never be based on things like that. Those are things that can come or go. Even though these things you spoke of are nice things, basing your man or woman on their financial capability to do these things, well, In my book, is wrong.

You reason it in your mind that you want a man/woman that can pay his/her way on whatever trips you might want to take. But in reality, you are basing whether you will date him/her on the money. In my mind, don't misunderstand me. I'm not passing judgment on anyone, but, in my mind it's wrong.

There are other forms of compatibility. For example, Can you talk? Can you understand/reach each other? Do you enjoy being with each other no matter what you are doing? Compatibility doesn't have to cost anything. If you both share a dream. Like traveling or anything else really. You will work together and find a way to make it happen.


Let's say you base your compatibility with another on whether they have the financial means to travel. Shyt happens. What if he/she get's in a place where he/she can't travel anymore? What if his/her finances dry up? What you based your compatibility on with this person is now gone. And it's not coming back. What do you do?

Do you do like a lot of men and women I've seen? Get up and leave? Go find another? If we do not base our relationships on the right things, that's what happens. Because the real love isn't there. Me personally, I think that a lot of people now have no idea what real love is. And what real love is based on.

As far as the rent thing goes, Some things are a given. Eating and rent are basics. If you love a man that can't afford rent at the time, you shouldn't be getting married or trying to have a relationship to start with. He's not ready. But, it really depends on the guy. Is he a bum that doesn't want to work? Well, then you have the wrong guy. But, if he is a good guy that just happens to be out of a job at the moment. But he's trying. He's doing the best he can. He loves you and he shows it. You wait. If the love is really there, you will wait. You both will.

One last statement, I see many people now who base their relationships on sex and the performance thereof. And when the novelty of it goes away with this person, they call it quits and go get another.

The same thing with "stuff". As long as the money is there for trips, cars, boats, nice furniture or a big home, they are happy. But, if it dries up, and often it does, throw them away. Go get another. We live in a throwaway society. Our lives with other people are not based on the right things anymore.

Wow, Stub!!!! Great answer...
You are a gentleman.

Hello ana and Romeo thanks for posting. For some reason I cannot view romeos posts on any thread. I wonder why

Charles I do agree anything superficial does not last. But we all have to start somewhere and work our way through the best way we can if we want anything lasting. I still believe though that we all need to make a lasting first impression to become unforgettable to a person who matters to us. So I guess my question is just about a date being the very first and last...just being the hopeless romantic that I can be

I understand. We all have out superficial tendencies. I have one that I know of. And sometimes that "one" gets in my way. But either way, I know sometimes it's hard to just accept someone where they are. For who they are and what they are.

When I was a kid I remember my mom telling me that she loved my dad so much that it didn't matter to her where they lived. She would live with him in a tent in the woods if that was what it took. As long as she had him and my sister and me, she was happy.

You hardly ever see that kind of love anymore. I know my mom wouldn't want to have to live in the woods in a tent. We never did. But at the same time I know she would've if it had ever come down to it. I was raised not to care what someone has. I could care less about what job they have or whether they own a house or not. I could care less about there money or there ability to make it.

All that matters to me, Do I love this person the right way? Do I love this person for who they are and what they are? If I can't say "YES" I let her go. A few years ago I had a chance to marry a very rich woman. Her husband had died and left her very well off.

At first, I got sucked in. She told me to go to any dealership I wanted and pick myself out a new car or truck. Or both if I wanted them. Or, I could have them built whichever way I wanted them. She would get them paid. I'm talking 70 to 80 thousand bucks here. New clothes anytime I wanted them. Trips to anywhere we wanted to go.

She almost had me. She had my head spinning when I realized what this woman could do. I couldn't do it. I didn't love her. I guess that's why I'm still single now. I know what the real thing (love) is. And I won't settle for any less. I would rather be in a tent in the woods with the one I really love. Than be with a rich woman and have everything I want, except love. If I can't have the love, alone I'll be.

^^^^ that is so I wonder how you know when it’s the real thing. The thing that could make someone move heaven and earth just to have and not just settle for

Do we love because we need the person or we love the person because we need them