Can someone enlightenment me on this trend? I've had spend weeks communicating with men and I even had a first date and they say it went great. Next, they disappear no form of communication for months. I erase their info from my phone and I move forward. Just when I start seeing someone new they show up and act like they never disappeared. That is crazy behavior and rather disrespectful. I noticed this is more common with younger men millennials. It's making for a frustrating dating experience and I feel like not dating at all anymore.

who knows... maybe it's you... at least you get a date, all i get is scammers...

huh.. after looking at your profile, i can see why they run... not many men fit into your tolerances..

That's one hell of a shopping list!
I was stumped on the first line
Good luck with that!

Former bling professional guess I'm out.

I loved his music, especially white Christmas!

Good ole Bing! I'll be home for Christmas.

I'm gonna go with scammer profile and fake person for 1000, Alex!

Online connections are not real until they become offline connections. There are so many reasons for someone you don't know to disappear that it seems pointless to try and focus on ONE reason.

Either forget it and move on or try meeting strictly in the real tangible offline world.

I wonder if we can learn to get on. She meets all my requirements!
1 female,
2. got a pulse!

Edited in....
Sorry Op...There could be a number of reasons. I agree with what Waterloosunset said.

The only one who can really tell you why though are the ones doing it. If one reappears, you could always ask. There's always the option to block them as well.

Good luck in your search.

The problem will likely be the other side of the equation. Equations do normally need to be balanced out...

Rob, for 1000 in "scammer profile and fake person", here is your clue...

"it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck"

Dam equations

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If you are experiencing the ghosting issue mainly with younger guys, maybe you can explore dating more men from your age group or older? Not judging , but just wondering if a different strategy might produce a different result . Good luck in your search

..yea about those parameters..I hope you believe in the old adage of opposites attracting and all cuz then I'd say ya got a dang good chance of finding someone..

well,you only need to stop dating young people

Hmmm. Well, I'm not going to join the "she's selective, that's why" crowd. It's got nothing to do with it.

I prefer math-logic analysis, myself.

The "equation" here is, assuming that the VERY selective OP has had a first date with these guys, and found each acceptable, is that she did not reckon on the guys in question being every bit as selective, and as independent as she says she is.

In other words, the most likely reason why any given person behaves as they do, is because they are that kind of person. If the kind of potential mate you repeatedly select, commits the same undesirable actions, that logically means that something which you are using as a selection criteria is DIRECTLY LINKED to the behavior you don't want.

You'll have to look through what made you decide to go for each guy, and think about how what you think of as POSITIVE traits, could also be the direct cause of what you DON'T like.

Simple example: if you gravitate towards the more independent kind of guy who is decisive and aggressive and likes to take control of the date (I don't know what you like, this is an example), then you should not be surprised to find that such a guy is ALSO decisive, aggressive, and control oriented when it comes to what he does with his time when he IS NOT with you. Such a fellow would likely have a number of people like you who he is pursuing, and is not at all likely to want to keep you informed about his plans. Independence, remember? He will come and go as he pleases.

That's just an example, to get you started on what basically boils down to looking on the "tails" side of each of your own relationship "coins," and see what you are bound to get as well, if you want to get the "heads" side properties.

I think you would make a good pair!