If your relationships keep sinking, check yourself for holes. Be the best you you can be and another will see that, including your soulmate.

Ha.
That reminded me of the joke about the 3 (enter your choice of 3 different nationality, or religions, here) explorers caught by amazon cannibals.
The cannibal king told them they would not go to waste.
Their meat would feed the tribe, their skin would wrap their canoes, their hair would become rope, their bones spearheads.
The king told them they could either commit suicide by any means they desire, or die a slow torturous death as each piece of them is taken for use.
The first guy whips out a knife, gives prayer or patriotic praise, and slits his own throat.
The second guy whips out a gun, gives prayer or patriotic praise, and shoots himself in the head.
The third guy whips out a fork and immediately starts stabbing at himself in random areas all over his body.
The cannibal king cries "what are you doing?!"
And the guy says "screw your canoe!"


then talk to your partner about it.


How do you know what that is?
What happens when you accomplish being the best you you can be, but the person who you were (the better you you can be) was more compatible with your partner?
What happens when you have to spend so much time and focus on yourself making yourself into the best you you can be that you have to focus less on your partner? Do you think relationships survive when you focus more on yourself to the detriment of the other?
Or do you think people have an infinite amount of focus and multitasking abilities?

What happens when the best you you can be surpasses the best them they wish to be?


You really believe other people have perfect clarity of who you are and are willing to sacrifice what they need for the sake of your self improvement, which may never end?