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Topic: fear of being single?
taketheshot07's photo
Tue 11/27/07 12:53 AM
I just got out of a relationship. I have this fear of being single the rest of my life? Has anyone has this feeling? (I did post earlier but I apprecite comments)

KalamazooGuy87's photo
Tue 11/27/07 12:55 AM
Fearing of being single only allows people to fear losing someone when they have them... From my experience when someone has a fear it does not go away if you comfort this fear, it must be hit head on.

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Tue 11/27/07 01:00 AM
Yeah, but what's scarier - being single or being stuck with a loser you barely like forever? There are worse things than being alone.

missfabulousxo's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:00 AM

Yeah, but what's scarier - being single or being stuck with a loser you barely like forever? There are worse things than being alone.



oooh looky,
it's cb.

bigsmile

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Tue 11/27/07 01:01 AM
Yep, i'm here - just sharing my wisdom with the people laugh

adamisarockstar666's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:07 AM
I have this same fear and in my experience is when your with someone dont worry about it as much because it seems to me the more you worry about it the more it seems to happen and sometimes after getting out of a relationship its better to wait because you never know what your rushing yourself into.

KalamazooGuy87's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:07 AM

Yeah, but what's scarier - being single or being stuck with a loser you barely like forever? There are worse things than being alone.


exactly, why rush yourself into finding someone, this only allows your expectations to fall, granted somtimes we all must compromise. But when these expectations fall you end up with half a man/woman than you used to day dream about. This being said id rather be single and wait for someone.

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Tue 11/27/07 01:48 AM
You feel this fear because of the mindset you have chosen to put yourself in.

"I fear being single because that means I'm alone."

Here's how I view being single:

"I LOVE being single because it gives me freedom to fully enjoy my independence while being able to play with multiple women without breaking any of my own moral values of fidelity as long as these women are in the same boat as me and are having fun being single as well."

A relationship is great, but being single can be great, too. Whatever you are doing in life, have fun doing it because you only live once.

If a man does not currently posess the means to put himself into the second mindset, he can obtain it through discipline. You can obtain ANYTHING through discipline. For example, having the ability to consciously and naturally attract multiple women may require discipline in the pickup arts. Learning to enjoy your independence may require furthering the disciplines in your own personal hobbies and passions. You can do anything if you set your mind to it.

Remember... happiness is a choice, not a circumstance.

dizzydean5's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:55 AM
dude im 41 and still single march 15th ill be 42 they way i see it when the time is right the right person will come in to my life so hang tight and dont push it your still young at my age then worry

dizzydean5's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:58 AM
hay out there is any one home

WorthMoreThanRubies's photo
Tue 11/27/07 02:09 AM
I agree completely with cb. I'd rather be single then stuck with someone where I have to wonder why I'm with them.

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Tue 11/27/07 06:45 AM
personally for me I don't have a problem being single....mayhap it's because I've gotten so use to it and set in my ways....I think someone on here mentioned that it's better being single rather being with someone you don't want to be with!...I mean, why compromise yourself?...

Hope you all have a GREAT day...flowerforyou

shady7414's photo
Tue 11/27/07 06:49 AM
there is nothing ot fear about being single... damn who needs commitment anyway.. ok ok i need a commited booty call.. but after that move on

fortsmithman's photo
Tue 11/27/07 07:34 AM


Yeah, but what's scarier - being single or being stuck with a loser you barely like forever? There are worse things than being alone.



oooh looky,
it's cb.

bigsmile


MMMM missfab a future LEO after she graduates from college and CB current serving LEO and might I say they are also cuties. I better stop before CB gets her taser outlaugh laugh

Chele1964's photo
Tue 11/27/07 08:10 AM
When I was very young, I stayed with my abusive ex-husband from fear of him hurting me if I left and also because I was deathly afraid of being alone. I had never been alone before and it was unchartered territory and extremely frightening. I faced the fear and ended up being ok with the aloneness.

At my age now, I do sometimes fear being single the rest of my life. I have decided that no matter what happens, I'm going to make the best of the life I have....with or without someone. It hasn't been easy getting to this point because I'm my best when I have someone to share my life with.

musclehd's photo
Tue 11/27/07 08:34 AM
fear of being single?? i have a fear of bein in a relationship

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Tue 11/27/07 08:35 AM
Honestly being single doesn't matter to me. I want to be successful in life have a nice job, car, house. A family comes second after I get all this stuff no reason to ruin my dream with a serious relationship now.

pashen37's photo
Tue 11/27/07 08:35 AM
you wont be single for the rest of your life..someone is going to snatch you right up

musclehd's photo
Tue 11/27/07 08:37 AM

Honestly being single doesn't matter to me. I want to be successful in life have a nice job, car, house. A family comes second after I get all this stuff no reason to ruin my dream with a serious relationship now.



couldnt have said it better myself

CaRisLOVE's photo
Tue 11/27/07 01:00 PM
pretty much at times
keep wondering when i get to truly show my love to ag irl who really wants it

:heart:

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