Strangely enough, I'm very familiar with child support issues. From both sides. I paid on my son for years and get support for my daughter. If you're proven to be the father, and the court order states you are to see your child, there's nothing she can do about it and if she breaks it, she will go to jail for contempt. My son's dad nearly went to jail, twice...for contempt, for refusing to let me see my son.

In the future, USE PROTECTION!

Get a lawyer. And, if it were me, I'd want proof it was my child.

Lawyers.com has a lot of information on it. It helped me with a question I once had. Check it out.

I don't know Iowa law... but in Illinois, this is how it generally works: visitation and child support are 2 separate issues. However, if you are married, Illinois automatically recognizes you as the legal father. Otherwise, you have to sign the birth certificate in order to be legally recognized as father. The will require a paternity test prior to issuing a child support order if you are not on the birth certificate. As for the baby's name- whatever is put on the birth certificate is the name. She could name the baby with a completely different last name from you or her and it would be recognized. Unless she compromises, you probably will have no say as to his or her name. For visitation, you will have to file a petition for visitation with the court.
It is actually a very good thing for you to pay child support through your state... it gives a record that you have paid, as opposed to handing it to her directly where she can always say you never gave her the money.
You should get legal advice from someone in your state. Often times there are "Pro Bono" lawyers to offer free advice at your local courthouse if you cannot afford to hire an attorney. There are also Legal Aid places if you are under a certain income level... Unfortunately, without involving a court, you're probably fighting a losing battle.

Good Luck to you.

Bottom line is to get a lawyer, my son is going through the same thing. Remember this is in the best interest of the child and that is what the judges will look at, not at what the problem is between you two. Also there are sites found through google that can help in getting this type of information. Good Luck!!!!

It is different in every state. You can go to a lawyer for free the first visit and ask them legal questions. Do not listen to people that have had these issues ten years ago...lots of things have changed in the last few years concerning this subject.