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Well.... skeptical... I've seen your posts....i don't think you are the type to bottle up your emotions... Also,, ![]() How do you feel your about to be misunderstood??? You speak your mind very clearly. So,,, I don't think you are the silent treatment type. Pretty open and very spirited. Making you mature....i hope you catch my drift! Rob i wish all those were true about me lol i am mature in some ways but as you defined immaturity it kinda touched a straw ![]() ![]() |
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Nah, Skeptical, u don't think you were off topic! I like what you said!!!
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Nah, Skeptical, u don't think you were off topic! I like what you said!!! ![]() ![]() |
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when i feel i am not going to be understood and just have an argument if i do speak my mind i just keep quiet. so if a person is giving me the same treatment i totally understand it. does that make me immature? ![]() I dont know if to call it immature skeptical, but I think that it would be great if you gave the person a fair chance to listen to you,and understand where you are coming from. If you are no longer willing to give a person the chance to try to understand you better, then why be in a relationship with them? |
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Well.... skeptical... I've seen your posts....i don't think you are the type to bottle up your emotions... Also,, ![]() How do you feel your about to be misunderstood??? You speak your mind very clearly. So,,, I don't think you are the silent treatment type. Pretty open and very spirited. Making you mature....i hope you catch my drift! Rob i wish all those were true about me lol i am mature in some ways but as you defined immaturity it kinda touched a straw ![]() ![]() No need to feel bad for venting hun. and I think most of us are stubborn in one way or the other so you are not alone. ![]() |
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when i feel i am not going to be understood and just have an argument if i do speak my mind i just keep quiet. so if a person is giving me the same treatment i totally understand it. does that make me immature? ![]() I dont know if to call it immature skeptical, but I think that it would be great if you gave the person a fair chance to listen to you,and understand where you are coming from. If you are no longer willing to give a person the chance to try to understand you better, then why be in a relationship with them? hello peggy ![]() ![]() |
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speaking my mind gets me into trouble most of the time...less talk less mistakes less complications
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when i feel i am not going to be understood and just have an argument if i do speak my mind i just keep quiet. so if a person is giving me the same treatment i totally understand it. does that make me immature? ![]() I dont know if to call it immature skeptical, but I think that it would be great if you gave the person a fair chance to listen to you,and understand where you are coming from. If you are no longer willing to give a person the chance to try to understand you better, then why be in a relationship with them? hello peggy ![]() ![]() Hi skeptical ![]() Well it sounds like you;ve worked out some kind of a balance in your approach, which is a good thing :) |
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thanks peggy i always look forward to your posts never boring most of the time thought provoking
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thanks peggy i always look forward to your posts never boring most of the time thought provoking ![]() Thanks skeptical. I admire your posts too ![]() |
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Edited by
dolphin0925
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Fri 06/30/17 11:19 PM
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Sometimes people punish others for an offense by cutting off communication without warning for a week or even longer. How do you feel about it and how do you cope? For me, I would say it depends on every individual. Giving a silent treatment doesn't mean an individual is immature, it's neither a punishment nor cutting off communication with someone. Silence could mean many things. I am always a fair person and tries to listen to reasons or explanations. But there are times when we are too emotional and sensitive that we break down easily if we are in a confrontation, thus we prefer to take some time to calm down to compose oneself and see some reason in silence rather than engage in a confrontation that might heat up a situation. If in a relationship of course it is important that we have to give reason to our partner why we want to have some time for ourselves. Cutting them off without warning is definitely not healthy. When in a relationship both should be more open about their feelings and making sure that you both understand each other by respecting one's privacy of having some time for herself or himself. I don't like confrontations, it easily makes me feel vulnerable and cry easily that's why I would rather just keep silent for a moment but I have to let my partner know why. I would only message him through text but not talk coz I would definitely just cry. If a person doesn't understand you and doesn't know how to listen to some reasons, then it is not your problem but his. If someone whom I just met, and haven't established a good emotional attachment yet, being silent doesn't mean you are totally ignoring or cutting him off , but maybe because you are just waiting for him to message you for you are not comfortable messaging a man first. Maybe you just try to see if someone is really interested with you or not. If someone is silent with me, I wouldn't take it so badly. I would give him some time to prove himself or explain why. Though he is not oblige to explain why, but if he does then I would greatly appreciate it and will listen to reasons. We all have a gift of discernment, I am sure we could identify a valid and reasonable excuse from a lie? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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Sometimes people punish others for an offense by cutting off communication without warning for a week or even longer. How do you feel about it and how do you cope? For me, I would say it depends on every individual. Giving a silent treatment doesn't mean an individual is immature, it's neither a punishment nor cutting off communication with someone. Silence could mean many things. I am always a fair person and tries to listen to reasons or explanations. But there are times when we are too emotional and sensitive that we break down easily if we are in a confrontation, thus we prefer to take some time to calm down to compose oneself and see some reason in silence rather than engage in a confrontation that might heat up a situation. If in a relationship of course it is important that we have to give reason to our partner why we want to have some time for ourselves. Cutting them off without warning is definitely not healthy. When in a relationship both should be more open about their feelings and making sure that you both understand each other by respecting one's privacy of having some time for herself or himself. I don't like confrontations, it easily makes me feel vulnerable and cry easily that's why I would rather just keep silent for a moment but I have to let my partner know why. I would only message him through text but not talk coz I would definitely just cry. If a person doesn't understand you and doesn't know how to listen to some reasons, then it is not your problem but his. If someone whom I just met, and haven't established a good emotional attachment yet, being silent doesn't mean you are totally ignoring or cutting him off , but maybe because you are just waiting for him to message you for you are not comfortable messaging a man first. Maybe you just try to see if someone is really interested with you or not. If someone is silent with me, I wouldn't take it so badly. I would give him some time to prove himself or explain why. Though he is not oblige to explain why, but if he does then I would greatly appreciate it and will listen to reasons. We all have a gift of discernment, I am sure we could identify a valid and reasonable excuse from a lie? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Yes Dolphin. People need silence sometimes to compose themselves. Thats totally understandable. This thread is strictly referring to the silent treatment as a means of punishment ![]() |
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