Really is there any real love?is it realy exist? I don't believe in real love.Real love depends on belief but everyone likes to break promises and belief.Who can I trust? Now I don't believe in love.

Well you have my sympathies for feeling the way you do.

Life is not going to be a bed of roses for you

You have been searching for love only FROM OTHERS, if that is what you believe. Everyone who does find it, finds it first by recognizing it in themselves, FOR others. That's how everyone who does so, learns to tell the difference between others who want to feed off of them, and those who actually love.

Yes.
It's just not going to present itself to you on a plate wearing a blinking neon sign with a notarized and certified government issued license plus 100 year guarantee, which then sits and waits for you to measure it, study it, understand it, prove it, then pick it up and enjoy it.


Doesn't really matter.
But you're kinda screwing yourself with that belief.

The stronger you don't really want to believe in love, then most likely if you ever do feel it (as it grows organically) you will try really hard to label it as something else, if not flat out deny it for what it is, and end up actively working against it to try and prove what it "really" is, thereby smothering it, killing it, but proving yourself "right."

Little different in practice than the other end of the spectrum like when teenagers that want to label the most basic sexual infatuation crush as "true love" working really hard to prove that it's "real."


Trust and love are two different things.
You can love someone and not trust them, ask anyone married to an alcoholic, or a parent to a drug addict.
You can trust someone without loving them, ask your boss.


Real love depends on you being able to see it for what it is and accept it.
Building it into a Disney fantasy is just as bad as denying it as nonexistent.


No one likes to break promises.
People have an inherent desire, no matter the culture, of being consistent with their commitments.
Any inconsistency engenders automatic feelings of guilt and fear.
No one likes to be called a liar, hypocrite, prevaricator, thief, untrustworthy. That tends to lead to being ostracized.

What people "like" to do is find loopholes to exploit so they can get out of having to be consistent with their commitments, avoid responsibility, while maintaining plausible deniability they are doing so.
They want you to believe they have made a promise in order to get you to reciprocate and then live up to your promise that benefits them.

People want control without responsibility, they want maximum benefits with least amount of risk.
They don't like breaking promises.
But they have no compunction against breaking promises that are assumed.

How that works is getting you to build expectations based on a false reality stemming from an implied or vague promise (or stated promise with unclear boundaries).
They indirectly control how you build expectations, and when those expectations become inconvenient to getting what they want, they can (at least in their head) shirk all responsibility and hold you accountable to them for your expectations.

You can trust people to act in their own self interest.
Not yours.
The only promises that really matter are those that can be immediately proven by measurable goals.
The fewer concrete goals, more emotion based, vague timeline promises made, the less the promise can be trusted.



....Or is this just one of those reverse psychology billboarding posts?