Thank you very much dear Ana! So kind of you to get in touch...I just responded to your email. Take care amiga!

So sorry for your experience, Maria. May the loving Lord, deep abyss of mercy, keep you safe and strong enough to cope with your adversity. I ask this in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. God bless you.

in our thoughts Maria... stay well ... get rest ...
don't over think... that can hurt you the most ... that comes from experience ... do what you can... cause that is all you can do ...

(((((((((((((mysticalview21))))))))))))).

it is so sad to read that you have been through such situation, we can't do a lot but we can at least be always by your side at least virtually when you feel lonely or depressed, I wish sincerely that you will be able to get through this difficulties and hope to see you here posting and telling us that everything is going well with you as soon as possible, stay strong and take care.

Oh Maria.

I am just reading this , and Im so sorry to hear it.

My best frend was in a 15 year relationship that became abusive in the last 5 years. He threatened to kill my friend , her parents and her two kids who were 5 and 6 years old at the time.

I helped her and her kids to escape from him when she got really scared one night, but she decided to return to him with her children after a week.

For 2 years, I lived in fear for their lives , but her parents and I contined to pray. She finally left him after 2 years of trying to make it work a second time, but this time I didnt help her do it. She did it on her own and contacted me afterwards.

She and her kids are now living with her parents and her ex lives on his own with weekend visitation rights to the kids.

He threatened her for a while but its almost 3 years since she left him, and he has calmed down alot, and my friend, her kids and her parents are happy and safe now :)

You did the right thing by calling the Police. Abusers need to be called out on their crap. Keeping it a secret makes them more bold and evil.

I know your situation is not the same as my friend, but I just wanted to encourage you that prayer really works and all our prayers are going out to you right now. Your situation is crushing and painful , but I pray that you come out of it happy and strong like my best friend. I hope everything works out for your family .

And by the way, you have been so happy and funny on the forum for the year I have been at mingle. I dont know how you gave so much light to others when you were in so much pain and darkness. I really admire you for that

celebrateliving: Thanks I really appreciate your comment/prayer, means a lot to me.

mysticalview21 Thank you my friend for being here for me. i know what you mean. I've been trying hard to stay away from the situation...

F0X: Thank you so much for your kind words, seems like they're coming right from your heart. It really means a lot to me.

My situation still not 100% with my daughter but at least I can see my grandson once a week. Thanks once again!

peggy122: Thanks my friend for being here to show me some support and for the comment about your friend, I know how terrible is living with a abuser. I had the bad experience with my ex-husband. We see that as "Normal life" until one I woke up and realize I didn't want to put up with his verbally/physical abuse no more.
I'm glad you try to help your friend and her and her family are safe.

Hello Maria,It might be smart to remove yourself from this stressful situation and focus on yourself for awhile.No man should put hands on a woman and your son in law sounds like he has control problems and I am sure he will get worse if challenged.Focus on things that make you happy and try not to blame yourself for the things that bring you stress. God loves you and your little dog and I like the others, truly hope the best for you. I am sending my prayers your way. Stay strong.

Chuck:
I was happy to see your comment, thanks for being here and for your kind words I appreciated that. My son in law has some kind of problems I knew from the start, I told my daughter about him but she didn't listen to me 4 yrs. ago and now is a little boy in between who's the one is paying for already, but at least is on the open now with the police; the bad thing is that He lied to them and said that hi never touched me :( so for my daughter and the police I'm a liar. But Jessica knows what kind of douche bag he is. Excuse me for this...I hope you're doing OK. and take care.

Hiya Maria,

I just found this since I havn't been on here for a while.

I love Chrissy's prayer and more or less agree with her prayer and will say the same one with a tiny tiny change.

Sorry to hear of your suffering.
Sadly beings family does little to protect you from people who are emotionally or physically abusive.

That it seems like it is open season on Mother's and Grandmother's doesn't make it right. It does seem more common where adult children get away with acting like brats at best and criminals at worst.

Unfortunately as a Grandmother you have few rights or protections except to extract yourself from the situation and stay out of it. Especially if you have any self respect or desire to lead an adult child by example at the very least. Surprisingly this is what finally sinks in on the hard heads that tolerate this kind of abuse themselves or EVEN for their kids .

What I have learned from experience is however much you want to express empathy , kindness, forgiveness, or even accept partial responsibility the stress leading up to it the result is "IT" will be perceived as Weakness and justification for UNACCEPTABLE behavior that WILL be repeated.
As difficult as it may be stepping out of the situation is the Only way to resolve it
Which prefices my Prayer that you know that God knows your true heart and will not leave you alone in this. That you will find people and things to keep your heart at peace and be strong in rebukeing what his teaching tell is not in his honor or plan for us as Mom's or the generous blessing of having a Mother-In-Law also.
I will also pray that you see the wisdom in not useing a permanent solution to a problem for you that Wii punis . MANY more than the guilty; specifically a Grandchild that will clearly need you well beyond the parents control . Given the situation may be much sooner than you think.
Good luck

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Loving Lord,

I lift up Maria to you this day.

I ask that you would bless her with your supernatural refreshment as she moves through this day.

Give her a lightness in her step and a song in her heart.

And may she feel your love and strength,

In the precious name of Jesus, I pray,

Amen


Hope this helps

Krissy
Amen

Jaan_Doh Thanks for your good wishes my friend. I really appreciated.

PacificStar48 Thanks a lot. You just mad my day by reading your lovely suggestions. I agree with you 100%...now my daughter starting to realize that Mother is ONLY ONE.She asked me to babysit my grandson tomorrow night until Sunday before I go to Church. Right now I feel like I'm on top of the world again by being able to spend time with him again after almost 2 months of not having him over. He lights my days, and I just fill my heart is over joy again at least for the moment. Thanks again for your prayers. God Bless you nice lady!!!

Amen


wolfchic Thanks for thinking of me. Have a great day.

I realize now who are my real friends...To those members who took few mins of your precious time to make a comment in my topic I really appreciated, thanks for being here and for the rest of you...thanks also!