Yes, there are plenty of good guys out there. However, good is not really what anyone wants. They don't want bad either, they just don't want one or the other. We should all have some of both in us, good and evil, right and wrong, compassionate and cold. Nature knows not these terms, nature knows balance. We, being of nature, would - naturally - follow suit. A red flag would raise in my mind is a match was nice not only all the time but to everybody and not even in private complained or mocked another. That's offputting. Every time they interview some serial killers neighbors don't they always say something like "He was a quite young man, kept to himself, but always smiling and just a really nice and good guy to all of us." Exactly.

If you seek perfection, you search in vain. If you seek one extreme or the other, you'll find only lies. Find not a good guy, find a balanced one. I am not a horrible person, yet I am not a saint either. I have my moments, like everyone does. The thing of it is is that we put too much importance on preconceived notions and when suitors do not match our desires accordingly, which is impossible the future is never how our brains play it out, they are overlooked, Prince Charming is just a few more profiles over...

Balance, it is the way of everything. Anything else is on a collision course or fake.

This is simplistic reductionism as life is complex and reducing it to a dichotomous pair is insulting and dishonest since it is the degree of these two opposites that determine whether they are viable and this is not discernible with a binary synthesis...No mention of the degree of each is paired so the lack of differentiation masks any meaningful pairing of variables.

Dude...whatever....

The thing of it is balance

The range of the balancing point and that which we balance is where we explore